Confused about whom to choose caring and loving husband or lover?

Arranged marriages are primitive barbaric things, so it was never a proper marriage at all and you'd be quite justified in walking out and finding somebody who you love, and who loves you.
If your husband was REALLY honest and caring he wouldn't have made you marry him against your will..

I don't agree with how you did things but..it can be confusing to live in a different culture and suddenly be presented with opportunities you never knew you had. Apologize to your husband ..explain the best you can. Let him know he didn't fail. After all he may still be subjected to the way of thinking that led you to marry. Do you have children together ? I hope not. I'm sorry about your family. I married someone and my family disowned me as well (sort of speak) Funny thing is he turned out to be a jerk and I later married someone else.

You realize there are other cultures than your own, right?

I don't give a rat's ass about other cultures..
"Thus saith the Lord, learn not the way of the heathen" (Jeremiah 10:2)

Which makes you a bigoted hick and not surprising why you would quote the bible, they go hand in hand.

I mean, it must be terrible for some poor girl to be forced into an arranged marriage with a savage from another culture because whenever there's a thunderstorm outside he'd crawl under the bed whimpering "Ugh...me afraid...gods are angry...ugh..."

I thought it was meant as comical irony ...maybe not

No, Romeo is an idiot. Read what else he spreads around..
http://able2know.org/topic/229483-2#post-5528704

Hey Calamity Gal, no need to play hard to get! If you want to date me just say so..

You make me sick to my stomach. It's people like you that turn others off of christianity.