CONCERNS ABOUT MY GIRLFRIEND GOING TO IBIZA

She says she's 'past all that." That was 10 YEARS ago, right/

Believe her and let it go.

And she told him of the arrangment in the beginning; no invitation implied.

Monkey.. Is that how you feel. ?

It's very hard to get back with an ex.

Can I ask why it ended the first time? And how long you were apart?

I think, when we haven't found "the person" we want to spend the rest of our life with, we tend to go back to our past anything that makes us happy, if we are not in the place where we want to be within our lives, not ready even.

She is single, in her mind, and her trip is something she has been waiting for, in her life of haven't found what she is looking for, justs gets comfort with her ex... No Clamidiya or something.

I think that she will not cheat actually. She just gave you a message, you are her safe sex partner... But, she is looking.

I am sorry but that's how I feel of this. If you were loved? You'd be going soon, don't be a "settlement" of not wanting to be lonely all people are capable of doing this, when lost, trying to find, want so much and then settle and use... to get that feeling, whilst looking.

That is what I see.

She can't take you? And there are couples? You ain't there when she gets back.

Move on. You deserve better.

Thanks for your reply. I think you have hit the nail on the head. I wanted to speak to her on the phone about how I feel. But she never answers & takes hours to respond if at all. So I had to text it instead:

Hey babe. I hate to say all this as I'm sure you've had enough on your plate with your course etc. You're right. Saying I'm lacking sex is a bit out of order. Even though I said it's not your fault (She has cystitis) So is not returning my call. It's the little things that go a long way babe. If I tell you I love you it's nice to hear it back. If I ring you it's nice to answer or at least return my call. I want things to stay as they are between us. It's when the little things are missing when the magic seems to fade.I don't want this Ibiza holiday to destroy our relationship. But it still bothers me I never got an invite when your mates boyfriends did. Kind of makes me feel not good enough. I do question why you wouldn't want me to be there with you. If you wanted me there you would have asked me. I couldn't go now even if you wanted me to.
Last week you were all loved up now it seems you're not. Yes you're busy and stressed about your course etc but you couldn't even tell me you loved me the other day. What's that about? The week before you told me you're crazy in love with me? What changed? I suggested going to Stratford comedy show for bank holiday, no response, I said lets go & dance at my mates dj event at the washford. Again no response. I tell you I'm horny you sarcastically say have a wank. It means more than I want a ****. It's the want to feel your naked body close to mine, feeling passion. Last time was amazing. So passionate. I felt completely in love. It was as if we were in a world of our own. Nothing else in the world mattered. I would use the term making love but you take the mick
out of me
Is this how things are going to be? I don't want to be a possesive boyfriend not allowing you to do your own thing. Nor do I want to spent every minute with eachother. Nor should I keep things from you. But what I do want is you to show me love & a little respect. Is this too much to ask? Don't blow out the light if you still want to see me. I love you x

her
I have no words. We need to speak on the phone. Xxx

me
This is what I wanted to speak to you about yesterday. I just don't feel happy babe x

Her lack of response kind of says it all. She's just not into me. Maybe she has a lot on her plate with uni etc. I just don't know what to do.
We split up a for a year after about 7 months. A year later we got back together. So since Jan 2013. We split up before pretty much for similar reasons. Me feeling excluded. There were other reasons too. I love her and up until recently I thought she loved me too. She told me she has never had a relationship last more than a year which also doesn't fill me with confidence. It's mainly the feeling of being excluded from the holiday which has triggered all this. I love her so much. Last time I loved someone like this was an ex years ago who died. I guess I'm afraid of loosing her too. Maybe I should step off the love gas a bit. See what happens?

Maybe about 5 or 6 years