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Let my ex bf come to our babys prenatal apt but im with another man?

 
 
ossobuco
 
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Reply Thu 16 May, 2013 06:50 pm
@Ticomaya,
gentleman?
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hawkeye10
 
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Reply Thu 16 May, 2013 06:52 pm
@bootsnjeans,
this is easy. tell baby-daddy to **** off till after baby gets here.
BillRM
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 06:03 am
@bootsnjeans,
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Yes I had willing intercourse later when I was good and ready and not to mention ON birth control! No one is allowed inside me regardless of the circumstance without my permission and at that time he did not have it.


LOL and I mean LOL women for some strange reason are very eager to accept a pass when it come to their own sexual behaviors under the claimed influence of alcohol or drugs.

Adults in all other areas of life even female adults are completely responsible for their behaviors when they are voluntarily drunk but when it come to a drunken couple in bed that end up having sex it is somehow a rape if the woman afterward regret her actions later or the outcome/result of her actions.

In any case my friend on your high moral horse the chance given the situation of the criminal justice system would be interest in the case is next to zero and that as it should be.

To sum up the father of your child is no more morally at fault for having drunken sex then you are just because he have a penis and you have a vagina.

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BillRM
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 06:15 am
@Ticomaya,
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She has no obligation to allow him to attend prenatal appointments with her doctor.


She have not legal obligation however it would hardly be a good start for a relationship that will be ongoing even beyond eighteen years.

An the moment the baby is born he would have a right to serve her with papers to exercise his legal rights to be in that child life if that is the path she wish to go down instead of a willingness to be a co-parent.
BillRM
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 06:44 am
@hawkeye10,
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his is easy. tell baby-daddy to **** off till after baby gets here.


Not a good beginning for the future that start the moment the child is born and continue into the future even beyond the 18 years of legal adulthood.

Of course her attempts to not share the moral responsibility of creating the child in the first place is not a good sign for the future relationship of the two parents either.
DrewDad
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 06:53 am
@bootsnjeans,
So... you were raped.

This guy sounds like a real prince.
DrewDad
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 06:55 am
@hawkeye10,
hawkeye10 wrote:

this is easy. tell baby-daddy to **** off till after baby gets here.

Must be a blue moon this month; I agree with Hawkeye on this one.
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BillRM
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 07:58 am
@DrewDad,
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So... you were raped.


Sure she was raped as he pour alcohol down her throat and then force her into bed with him.

Too bad she have such a problem with alcohol that she does not even remember the sex and regret the outcome of having the sex however that does not turn a couple having drunken sex into a rape.

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This guy sounds like a real prince


Given that he is showing signs of not being willing to just walk away from the child to be in spite of the mother desire to rewrite history and have another father, he does indeed sound like, if not a prince, at least a responsibility man.

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Ticomaya
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 08:23 am
@BillRM,
BillRM wrote:
Tico wrote:
She has no obligation to allow him to attend prenatal appointments with her doctor.


She have not legal obligation however it would hardly be a good start for a relationship that will be ongoing even beyond eighteen years.

That's an entirely different issue. Whether it would be "good" or not is different from whether she is required to allow him to attend, which was your implication.
BillRM
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 08:39 am
@Ticomaya,
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whether she is required to allow him to attend, which was your implication.


Never implicated in any manner that she have a legal obligation just a moral one as that being in her womb is as must a part of him as it is her.
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FreeDuck
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 08:47 am
@BillRM,
BillRM wrote:

Not a good beginning for the future that start the moment the child is born and continue into the future even beyond the 18 years of legal adulthood.


Actually I think setting boundaries and not being manipulated by guilt IS a good beginning for a relationship that may endure 18 years into the future. As long as that baby is inside her then what's best for the baby is what's best for her and what's best for her right now is to be as stress free as possible. If he wants to go for any reason other than to show support, care and concern for her well being then he doesn't need to be there.
JLNobody
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 08:48 am
@Ticomaya,
Or perhaps she suffered an attack (or case) of pregnancy?
BillRM
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 09:21 am
@FreeDuck,
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If he wants to go for any reason other than to show support, care and concern for her well being then he doesn't need to be there.


His reasons for wishing to be there is likely to be a mixed of more then one element however that does not change the fact that he should be in encourage to have an interest in his child for the long term good of that child to be and second the stress the woman is under mostly come with the situation.
FreeDuck
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 10:13 am
@BillRM,
Yes, he should have an interest in the child (and shouldn't need encouragement for that, btw) but that doesn't mean he gets to dictate the terms or doesn't have to respect her wishes, or that she should subvert her own well being for the sake of his desire to be involved. His needs are tertiary in this situation. At the moment the order goes: mom, then baby, then him. After the baby is born it will be: baby, then mom, then him. The sooner he recognizes that the better.
hawkeye10
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 10:14 am
@BillRM,
right...he should be encouraged to care if the mom is well and taking care of her pregnancy. beyond that there is noting for him to do so now that he knows mom is fine there is nothing for him to do for the baby untill after the birth. and just to be clear his fathers rights do not extend to being in the room when mom pops him out. he should get some time with the child on birth day, that is his first opportunity to play dad. mom has the right to only have the people she wants in the room with her, and jsyk her not being stressed out by baby-daddy is what is best for baby.
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BillRM
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 11:59 am
@FreeDuck,
She is trying to find reasons/excuses to locked him out of his child life and rewrite history so her current lover is the "father" such as claims that he was a rapist so I see no reason to encourage her in keeping on that path.

But that is just my opinion.
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Ticomaya
 
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Reply Fri 17 May, 2013 01:20 pm
@JLNobody,
JLNobody wrote:
Or perhaps she suffered an attack (or case) of pregnancy?

Is that contageous?!
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