Daddy issues, how do they reflect in relationships?

My father had an absent father (died at age 2).
My father did not seem insecure, nor jealous, nor in fear of anything.

When he eventually left, I was rather pleased.
His departure had no effect on my relationships.





David

I mean on girls. It seems to have an effect on girls.

this subject was brought up by you already and many people answered here:

http://able2know.org/topic/210678-1#post-5281451

Actually, my other post focused on what "daddy issues" really meant. As to what may cause it and how to solve it, I don't think I had satisfying ansWers, so I decided to post on the same issue, with a more direct question, to see if I can get other perspective on this.

You have my sympathy. It sounds as though you're unhappy with the status quo. Have you considered counseling?

If a topic is of special interest to someone,
u can't blame him or her for wishing to talk it out.

R u promoting self-censorship ?





David

Qua how u can "overcome it"
I suggest that u repeatedly tell your subconscious mind
that fathers can be good, bad or indifferent
and that yours possibly might have been a bad one.

U can also search for a good quality psychologist.





David

What are talking about? Self censorship? Make some sense, please.

I simply pointed out the fact that people have taken the time and replied to her previous post. This seemed a bit repetitive to me. Perhaps this is not the most productive way to get the proper help.

My suggestion stands: to seek out a good counselor. IMHO, an online forum won't give the help that OP seems to be seeking.


OTOH, your suggestion seems fairly useless. What percentage of people do you think in the general public can address their subconscious minds?

Can you do that? Do you think that the avg young person in their late 'teens or early '20s can do that? Personally, I don't, but perhaps I'm misguided or uninformed?

When u wrote that, it sounded like u were telling her to shut up,
because she was (per your implicit allegation) redundant & u don't wanna put up with that.

I think that 1OO% of people in the general public including all teenagers n 20 year olds
can easily address their subconscious minds.

I have done it yes, successfully, since my youth.
That was very, very helpful n produced comfort n relief.

I infer, from your post, that u r not informed.

(It's not too late.)





David

I find that it is not helpful to address any communication issues with you. Somewhere there's a disconnect. I've seen enough over a long period of time ...we're not on the same page.

Well, that's how the world IS, Ragman.
Sometimes people naturally n comfortably fall into friendship
with one another and the opposite is also true.
I advise u to make friends with people u like n to avoid those u dislike.
That's what I do.

I have no feelings toward u, neither pro nor con,
but I thought I saw an un-provoked attack on a newbe
so I rose to the victim's defense.

Every day every citizen addresses his subconscious mind,
actively or PASSIVELY, knowingly or not.





David

I neither requested no desire your advice about these subjects.

I do grant you a certain level of respect...but...even though you're a few years older than I am, I feel comfortable with my own pathway and the directions my life (and my advisors) has/have taken me. I surely don't need your unsolicited advice about who/whom I should seek out as friends online or RT.


Clearly my observation over time ...my opinion is that you have lost touch with how the world really is.

Furthermore, having a reasonable amount of familiarity with counseling, the process and mental health in general, I was poking fun at your pose as being knowledgeable on the subject. Ironic humor is a waste here.

I wish you no ill, but I see how unlikely it is that anything worthwhile will come from continuing here with you.

Anyhow, I shall return the thread ... and stop the diversion ... to the OP and hope there are contributors present that might have constructive suggestions that could be worthwhile to her.

I anticipated that u might say that, qua unsolicited advice,
but still, the First Amendment being what it is . . .

I did not know that u were "poking fun". Harmless.

U shud earnestly consider putting me on "Ignore".

I don't choose to put u on "Ignore" in that
u have not earned it by sufficiently egregious misconduct, yet.





David

... and we as individuals (I hope) never shall. We just operate from such fundamentally different POV.

Sometimes I consider A2K such a valuable asset because I never would've been aware at this level that such diverse POV is out there ...and yet, there is some level of civil discourse still possible. You don't exactly fascinate me because of how drastically different we view the world but what you do write interests me enough that I read your comments from time to time.

However, as diversions go, none of this serves the purpose of helping the OP.

I was rather happy when I realised the answers to my post had doubled, but after all it was just you two "fighting" about my post...lol.

Hopefully, u will get many more replies,
but don't be surprised by multiple clashes of opinion.





David

could have been worse. we could have been relatives!