@limecaca,
I know, after doing "all that" you wonder how you can then snag him because you are told that it's all in the chace right?
The thing is he has just gotten out of a relationship, usually that means they are not ready to get back into one straight away, but they are "ok" to hang out and "play" a little....He's basically told you this up-front so I would listen instead of ignoring that...
You two obviously can laught and fool around and get along, that's great.
If you hang out again and "play a little" remember, that's all he is ready for so don't let your emotions get in the way and try anything further, you may regret it later.
Relax and enjoy each relationship of what ever form it comes in, as it is.. In this case, a "mate" that finds you attractive but that's all.