@Daniel Ilford,
Trying to understand this.
Your girl asked for your best (male) friend's phone #, and never gave you a reason. Not that such things need to be justified, but it does seem a bit weird, unless they were planning a surprise party, going into business together or whatever.
The two of you go on a break for a while. During that time frame, the contact between them is amped up. The guy is (I think) pushing her to go out.
You get back together. The guy continues pushing. Your girlfriend does not delete his contact info and takes his messages (and possibly also his calls) but at least tells you about them.
Is that close to being correct?
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Of course your girlfriend has the right to contact anyone she wishes, and she has a right to some privacy in that. However, your male pal has overstepped his bounds in a big way, and continues to do so, despite the fact that she has told him that the two of you are an item again.
I think you're not going about this so well at all. Instead of confronting her, I think it would make a lot more sense for you to confront
him. Tell him -
Susan (or whatever her name is)
and I are going out again.. If he is your friend, he will cut it out, and not try to horn in on your action.
If he's not, then, well, he's not your friend, of course, and he won't be whether you stay with your girl or not.