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Your opinion on a relationship between a 19 and 32 year old?

 
 
Reply Sun 3 Mar, 2013 10:30 pm
I met this great guy at my work and we've been talking for almost 3 months now. I'm a 19 year old female and he's the 32 year old. We get along great, our sense of humor compliments each other, and for the most part we agree on many things. So far we've been nothing but happy.

I know there's a huge age difference but I find myself independent. I have 2 jobs and I'm a nursing student.

He's a pilot....and lives in different state than me:(

I've been really down lately and can't seem to figure out what to do. I really need your guys' opinion on if I should continue our communication or leave it and also the whole age thing.

Thanks
 
maxdancona
 
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Reply Sun 3 Mar, 2013 10:36 pm
@emmadeeee,
A 32 year old man seems kind of young. Wouldn't you rather have a man with a bit more maturity and life experience?
emmadeeee
 
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Reply Sun 3 Mar, 2013 10:39 pm
@maxdancona,
I would love to have someone whos more mature with life experience. My concern is the age difference between us two...
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Ice Demon
 
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Reply Sun 3 Mar, 2013 10:40 pm
@emmadeeee,
Yeah as max said, you need at least a sixty year gap, maturity and all that. Dump the 32 year old and try a 79 year old and get back to us.
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roger
 
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Reply Sun 3 Mar, 2013 11:46 pm
@emmadeeee,
I would be more concerned about your youth than the actual age difference. You might become a completely different person in the next 5 or 6 years, and it's likely he won't be changing in the same direction and at the same rate as you. It's also possible he is, and will continue to be attracted to girls at your present age. In other words, you may outgrow him.

What is a compatible relationship now, might be quite different in a few years. The whole thing might work out well in the long run, but your odds would be better if you were dealing with someone closer to your own age.
Lola
 
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Reply Mon 4 Mar, 2013 12:16 am
@roger,
Roger's caution makes sense. However, I've know of relationships like this and they worked very well, even long term. Then again, I've known of others that did not.
roger
 
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Reply Mon 4 Mar, 2013 12:40 am
@Lola,
Thanks, Lola. Some of the preceding answers to a serious question were somewhat embarassing.

I've known some that worked too. My first wife and I are at least friends, and that goes back something like 50 years. We just weren't good at being married.
MattDavis
 
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Reply Mon 4 Mar, 2013 12:46 am
@roger,
I agree with Roger on this.
If a long-term relationship is what you desire, that is.
I know that I am very different than the boy I was at 19.
On the plus side, life gets so much easier as you age. Very Happy
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Mon 4 Mar, 2013 08:14 am
What do you know about him?

You say he lives in a different state. Are you SURE he's not married? How is it that he is 32 and there's no other women in his life?

Tread carefully here. He may be taking advantage of your youthful vulnerability and inexperience in spotting a player. Most likely, you are not his only gal in the port . . .
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Mame
 
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Reply Mon 4 Mar, 2013 08:59 am
@emmadeeee,
I don't think age should be much of an issue. Yes, as others have said, you will be a different person in 10 years, but so what? What the real issue here is your living in different states.

If you're interested in him and in pursuing this relationship, just do it. Don't think about it so much. See if he wants you to come for a weekend visit.

Life is so short and you should enjoy yourself while you can. I know you're only 19 so you have many more years ahead of you than I do, but really - take every opportunity to have a fulfilling life.

We've all been hurt in relationships over the years, so just realize this might happen to you, too. It's a part of the whole cycle and very difficult to avoid. And it may or may not happen with you.

Have fun, take the plunge, and good luck to you.
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Ice Demon
 
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Reply Mon 4 Mar, 2013 09:34 am
@roger,
Hey! Leave maximus and me out of this. Nothing embarrassing about it.
You gotta be extra careful with occupations with a good salary that puts you around lovely bubblicious women in exotic locales away from home on a continuous basis, especially, if the pilot boyfriend has giggity giggity giggity goo syndrome.
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DrewDad
 
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Reply Mon 4 Mar, 2013 09:58 am
@emmadeeee,
If you were sure about this being a great thing, then you likely wouldn't have posted here asking for advice.

Your intuition is trying to tell you something.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Mon 4 Mar, 2013 11:29 am
At 19?
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contrex
 
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Reply Mon 4 Mar, 2013 11:30 am
When I was 36, I had a relationship with a 19 year old girl. It was her idea, mainly. She was the daughter of a much older friend of mine. I liked her, sure, but I didn't think she saw me as a possible boyfriend. She took the initiative and we were seeing each other for around 2 years. We went our separate ways and she is now married with 2 kids. We are still friends and she teases me about how shy I was with her. The relationship did neither of us any harm, quite the opposite.


ossobuco
 
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Reply Mon 4 Mar, 2013 01:40 pm
@contrex,
When I was seventeen, headed for the convent as a postulant in a few months, I had a major crush on a guy who was then 34. No, we didn't have a relationship, but I think that crush saved my life.. in retrospect. His observations of everything around opened up my then very tight viewpoints.
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Chloerose
 
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Reply Wed 6 Mar, 2013 08:39 am
@emmadeeee,
My boyfriend is 36 and I'm 21 we have lived together for two years I will admit he has a sort of fartherly role to wards me , but I like it plus the sex is better and older men like to wine and done you. GO FO IT!


Pls answer my question
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