That is one of the reasons I've appreciated Scandinavia, as far as I know about it.
I was raised in a different place than you, and in the beginning I was quite sure, from my intense religious training in my particular schooling, that women should obey their husbands - which is why it was such a confusion to me to figure out how I could possibly obey anyone while still believing I had to.
In the meantime, I had the nuns telling me that to be a doctor, I would have to be a Single Woman in the World (one of the choices on Vocation Day, the convent, marriage next, then single woman in world) and then recruiting me to be a missionary nun (I almost did it). I also had medical schools not accepting women (women would just go off and marry and quit, it was opined). Of, say, sixty or seventy medical schools listed in the 1962 MCAT, or was it '63 (medical school admissions test) catalog, perhaps nine - or was it less - accepted any women at all, and most of those nine took one or two, the rest of the schools accepting zero women. There was a women's med school in Philadelphia. The MCAT was related to US and Canadian and a couple of other schools, at least at that time.
That was over fifty years ago. Things changed, maybe because of civil rights legislation or the times just changing - I don't have data on that.
I've changed, and medical schools have changed. And the obey thing is well out the window for a lot of us.
The obey thing is not quite out the window though, in a lot of homes on earth.