Accept that you give priority to the religious allegiance and never admit that evil people use religion like they use politics, businesses, friends, etc.
I say people like you fuel conflict by taking someone's religious allegiance at face value. Strong religious views have nothing to do with it except where they are wrong in a pre-religious judgment. For example, you say a burka-wearing Muslim is a provocation but I say, where kitcheware if you want but if what you wear (religious or not) does not match up to the law, as in wearing clothers that mask identity or allow the carrying of explosives, then it is forbidden. Not allowing certain things that are called religiuous needn't be done on religious grounds.
Now this fluff of yours is sheer Pollyanna :" accept the humanity of Israelis, and for Israeli Jews to accept the humanity of Palestinian Muslims. "
1000 years and your still betting on a horse that never makes it to the finish line.