@spendius,
Quote:Some of us vonny find wall-to-wall happy smiling faces a trifle boring after a while.
If you find it boring to be surrounded by people who are relaxed and smiling, because they are enjoying good food and good company, in a peaceful atmosphere, why don't you just leave and go somewhere more to your liking? Why selfishly disturb the pleasure of others, by creating dissension, as a perverse way of amusing yourself?
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We only come fully alive in heated discussions.
Speak for yourself.
I certainly enjoy heated discussions, but, when I'm engaged in them is hardly the only time I'm "fully alive". You may need that sort of provocation and competition to stimulate your sensibilities and emotions, but others might not need, or want, that sort of thing at all times or in all places. There is a time and a place for everything, and, for most people, that generally includes a time and a place to relax and have some fun. And the regulars who hang out here would like this café to be one of those places.
Maybe you're jealous that others can relax, experience pleasure, enjoy humor and amusement, and just feel good, and able to appreciate good company and good food in a pleasant atmosphere. Your almost relentless need to rain on everyone's parade, to be a spoiler, seems like envy to me.
You don't even entertainment the possibility that the smiles you see around here are genuine, and that people here are actually experiencing pleasure and enjoying themselves by being here. You've got to see it as some sort of act, as phoniness, as forced. So you provoke, and provoke, until people no longer are feeling good, and then you think they are being "real".
Quote:Smiling is no good...
Again, spendi, speak for yourself.
Feeling good enough to smile is wonderful. Feeling good enough to laugh is great. Just feeling good is highly recommended.
Try finding something to smile about, spendi, try finding something other than being contentious to make you feel "fully alive", try relaxing and enjoying the sociability, and conviviality, that can be found here. And, if this place is "a trifle boring" for you, try walking around the neighborhood and finding some other coffee houses that might be more to your liking for a little while.