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Girl is not responding

 
 
Reply Mon 28 Jan, 2013 01:17 am
Hi everyone,

I know its long but please read it and give your genuine opinion

She is not responding for last 10 months.

she is 24 , a Virgo . me - 27 , aquarious ( amazingly I don't understand much about love )

I have read, virgo's take time, but this long ???

Details : we met at work place, she started to like me .I also liked her, but i knew she had a boyfriend so i didn't make a move thinking she might have some problem with her boyfriend and settle that up soon.
But I saw her interest kept on growing. But when I started to hint her that I am also interested ( although I am not good at hinting)
- she started to talk about her boyfriend, so I thought , probably they are happy now. So I started behaving normal. but again she started back to behave like she likes me - teasing, playing, touching. and then back to talk about her boyfriend...that was making me so jealous.... this happened for 2 months ..and now was the time she was going overseas for 6 months for studies and she asked me to add her on skype, which ofcourse I did.

After few days overseas, she declaired her relationship on FB as single.. Now then I thought she was not going well with her boyfriend, and I talked about this on skype - she said she doesn't want to talk about that. after few days I asked her and she refused right away...upset me. I still kept on talking to her as a friend and said sorry.

Now she would call me on skype and we would talk about other things.

but sometime when I call she would turn her skype on busy, sometime for whole 1 MONTH.

it was like, I always try to reach her but she would avoid me .

and only respond once a month ( saying , sorry I am just a little lazy to reply )

and then I thought I was probably crossing my line , she just needs a friend not a BF.

But she knew i liked her very much. And then after 6 months she comes back to austarlia, ( even though she didn't change her location stauts on FB, which she does always, I found that by her friends posts), she didn't let me know. I was furious.I asked " where are you right now ( then she was in sydney for a few days for her a Birthday, with her freinds)..she said broken hills ( a place a few 100ks from sydney) to practice her Social work field experience stuff ". I shouldn't have asked her like that. So to make the environment soft I started joking like nothing happened. she replies " you are silly ".

and I asked how long she is there for. she says 6 months.
( That was shocking for me - before leaving sydney she said she was coming back in 6 months, but never said she was going to Broken hills. ) - but that was all justified, as she had to get experience in her field.

Then I started talking through text messages, funny ones. as always, I was sending messages , 1 everyday, and she would reply, once a week.

Now somethng amazing happens. A friend of her who used to work with her for 5 yrs told me , she really liked me. I was totally on the top of the world... I tried to enquire about her more.. and found that she had another boyfriend just before this last one , but that guy left her, never came back. and I saw that guy posting on her facebook , but she didn't reply and changed her relationship status on FB to "in relationship" with this new guy....Never heard from that guy again. But this new guy , everyone who knew her said, she was not happy with him. That explains the way she changed her relationship status to "single " on FB as she left australia.
Now my stupidity starts : I wanted to make sure if she is still interested in me. which I wanted to check in the most wierdest way, I started sending her more messages 2-3 msgs a day, and then started sending her a little creepy one, even said I love her. i thought she would reply , but no reply...

so I stared the frequency of messages 6 msgs a day. and then i started to plead why is she not replying ..then she replies . I am not replying because I want to limit your texts to 1 /day....
I thought she still liked me.
Now eventhough I wanted to stop , i couldn't stop texting her, but no creepy ones....
and this time , like any other girl , just stopped talking to me I just kept on saying sorry thousand times..but no reply for 2 months
Now I totaly forced her to relpy by sending her almost 20 msgs a day. even asked, if she met someone... She replies " Please don't try to contact me anymore".

she was completely pissed

I realised I crossed my limit and didn't say anything for a month and then started pleading, begging to forgive me and about how much I love her. texting once every 3-4 days.

after 2 months she replies " stop contacting me , leave me alone ".

I totally stopped . I realised I've been such an irriatating person. I cursed myself.
I sent her a text after a month, saying sorry. no reply. then for next 6 months I sent few 4-5 msgs in total but never a reply always about sorry I was..no reply..now I have totaly stopped sending her for last 4 months...

and I need help. I don't know what to do

when I look back at all this, I feel so sorry that I was such an idiot, just kept on annoying her by my msgs. she is shy and silient, extremely mature, but very very strong mentally , and she has seen alot of things in her life for sure, she understands people right away.


I check her facebook. doesn't seem like she is with someone. even if she is with someone , she should have told me something..like - not interested , forget about me etc.
BTW, she has got a job in a small town 500ks from sydney ( there are few social workers jobs in city any way ). but she does visit her freinds here, in sydney, some times.

I have decide not to contact her and wait for her , for next few months....

I think I am living under illusion. she was probably gone long time ago.

I am counting on the fact that I have heard about virgos ( I think which applies to any girl )
that she would let me know somehow indirectly that she is not interested anymore..she would let me know,

I even asked her if she is with someone..no reply...

but probably by not replying she is indicating to forget about her. i don't know...

anyway...I want to give her sometime. Because, other than the fact that I love her too much, when in future this thing ever haunts me then atleast I can say to my self that I gave her full time. I will get mental satisfaction that it wasn't my fault.

so please shed some light here
wait for her or forget her ?

Thanks for being patient to read this.









 
hawkeye10
 
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Reply Mon 28 Jan, 2013 01:49 am
@nashsync,
do you also wait for people to come to your parties, people who never once said that they would come?
SyrisKnows
 
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Reply Mon 28 Jan, 2013 03:47 am
@hawkeye10,
Forget her .
it would appear you have missed on all of the go away signals while it might not be easy for you to come to terms with, moving on would most defiantly be the best course for you.

P.S dont put everything into star signs
roger
 
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Reply Mon 28 Jan, 2013 03:51 am
@SyrisKnows,
I didn't begin to read all that, but if she is not responsive, she might need medical attention.
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jespah
 
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Reply Mon 28 Jan, 2013 07:08 am
She's not interested. Move on.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Mon 28 Jan, 2013 11:37 am
You said: think I am living under illusion. she was probably gone long time ago.

You got it right.

Move on. . . . What did you LEARN from this experience? (forget that Virgo crap, BTW)
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farmerman
 
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Reply Mon 28 Jan, 2013 11:37 am
@nashsync,
youre sorta being a stalker (Actually not sorta). Better just stay away unless she has a bf who is gonna find you , and probably youre not gonna like what he does.
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