the bitch cheated i hate her for it

Gee, you're just fulla the love now, eh?

You were hurt. She has physical problems (serious ones).

So leave and forget about her. And don't try for mythical closure or an apology or anything. Right now, it just makes you look petty.

Let.It.Go.

You are hurt and now are angry - with good reason.

Let this anger go thru you and teach you a lesson.

You don't say how old you are.

Best advice jes.

Life isn't a scripted TV show, tied up neat at the end of the hour.

It's messy.

Me? I think sometimes closure is over rated. Like we're supposed to end up at the end of life with everything all finished and making sense.

Doesn't work that way, and the sooner we realize that, the sooner we can just get on with the business moving through our days, and working with what we've got.

Hey, thanks. I think a lot of people see closure, instead, as being a chance to get in their last licks (and I mean jibes, nothing sexual). A lot of people really, really want the last word, as if the assuaging of their butt hurt somehow trumps everything. It doesn't. Move on.

PS G'morning.

There's this novel I once read "A Covenant of Salt" by Martine Desjardins that, for me, so outlined the the fruitlessness and hubris of getting in that last word.

Spoiler Alert, in case you want to read the book yourself.

In it, the main character, a woman named Lily, has completely given her life over to being a recluse who literally makes salt her existence. She sniffs it, has halls carved out of salt, eats it, breaths it, lives it. She is as bitter, dry & dead/sterile inside as the salt. What in moderation gives spice and flavor to life is isolating and self absorbing in excess.

It isn't until nearer the end you learn she has been I think jilted or something, and her entire life as from then on been this elaborate plan to bring together the parties directly and indirectly involved to, I don't know, teach them a lesson? Get in the last word? "Show" them?

Thing is, when she gets to show one (or more than one, can't remember) of them her elaborate masterpiece of salt, the response is "um....ok"

In the end, she dies, and some of her servants are cleaning up the house, in order to close it up. 2 of her maids find a box of something like marzipan, which the woman never allowed herself, and one of them says "Oh sweets!" and they stuff their mouths.

That is literally the end of the book, and I sat there and though "huh?" It didn't make sense after all the bitterness and desiccation that went on. Later I realized that was exactly the point.

She was dead, after living a crappy life. The people she felt she needed to "show" had no idea what she was on about, and the world moved on.

Interesting, thanks.

As always, Jes says it best.

I'd however, ask myself, why did she cheat, and why did she have a heart attack she sounds as if she needs a lot of help, "hense your stupid" thought..

You can't save the World or anyone in it, they have to save themselves.