ex sleeps around to much

Unless and until you get an accurate vision of what this relationship is between you two, you are going to suffer.

She cannot stay committed to you.
She likes to mess around with multiple guys.
She is not appreciative or ready for you at this time, perhaps because of your age difference.
Your life is slipping away because you are spending all your time on something that is not there.

How do YOU see things?

You should tell her how you fell then move on becuase you can find another girl better then her

"Unless and until you get an accurate vision of what this relationship is between you two, you are going to suffer. " this line is true, although, she can and has been commited to me for the 4 years we were together. She was an amazing girlfriend but it was her past i had a hard time dealing with. most of our fight were about that and thats why we first broke up for that 3 month period....then when we get back together i found out there were 2 others guys in that 3 month period..its like her past all over again. l really thought the 4 years we were together made her realize things, give her morals and values about how sex and love works. Not that porn type life she was living ugh..it's just so confusing...we've been apart a while now and she still tries to contact me and sometimes i just try and pretend i change my number or something but sometimes i text back..it's really difficult. l know i can get her back, but do i want her back? i cant even forgive her for her past let alone the 2 other guys and now we're been apart im afraid to even imagine how many more guys? ya know?

At the very least, you should get tested for STDs.

lol thanx did that for sure

Number one, if it's your "ex," it's none of your goddamned business. Number two, do you apply the same standard to yourself? If you have sexual relations with more than one partner, does that make you a tramp? Trying seeing your "ex" as you see yourself.

well if she's still contacting me then it is. l dunno how to feel. i would never have multiple partners at the same time. i have to much respect for myself....i just wish she could have that same kind of respect for herself too, make me descion much easier

Dont be ashamed that you are a one-woman man. That is to be commended.

If this girl had other relationships WHEN YOU WERE BROKEN UP, then that is her business.

Your question is: can she be faithful to ONE guy?

Look at her history. You need to decide if you can be with her and not think about her past all the time. It will eat you up.

This is your insecurity not hers.

She was totally committed to you for 4 years. Totally. Regardless of her past. She trusted you, and loved you obviously and can have a one on one relationship.

Chances are she was used and abused and thought she was nothing, so why not play the field? She also probably has an adventurous nature and when single just goes with the flow, why? Because what she wants is love. How can I say that? Because she WAS committed to you for 4 years.

Your problem is you want a woman who is not promiscuous, just quietly because it scares the carp out of you that she will stray. Yet, quietly you reep the rewards if she trusts you that you love her, as she is playful and inviting.

But, with that, you constantly fear the worse, she will stray whilst with you after all you just admitted YOU were the one who broke up with her due to her past, not present, but past.

At that time she gave up hope huh? I mean men are men, no one wants me they don't like my past even when I spent 4 years proving I can be failthful and so the cycle was re-born.

Morals and values. How Sex and Love work.

But by arguing with her over and over and you have stated that you did, how did you teach her trust? Trust in love? You reminded her at many a moment where she came from ............

How can she gain morals and values? That comes with the belief that the person you are with loves you un-conditionally regardless of your past..... Shows you love, in the form of everything not just sex and sex is sex, but bonding and intimacy is something else.

Have a deep think.

Personally you have to get over in my opinion that a person is a person, free will and all of that. Until they are with you, at that point there should be honesty and commitment. You have to get over that we belong to ourselves, you don't own us nor can you judge us of our past.

And, you have to work out why this woman stayed faithful to you for 4 years if that isn't love what is, and why she strayed when you dumped her due to her past.

Ooops I meant to vote you up and voted down

Sorry Punkey.

In re-reading the OP he stated she 'WAS' totally committed to him for 4 years . I think she can be committed in a relationship, she has shown it... Just got let down, as he continued to bring up her past.

OMG you sooooo nailed it there....im like super speechless right now. The only thing is, the reason i kept bringing up her past is also becz of the way she treated me in the process with her being with all these guys but that's just like a lil side note. And its not so much i don't want a girl that's not promiscuous, it's just that at the time she was treating me badly she had like 8 diff guys in her life in like a 6 week period, i mean thats going a lil over board ya know. But everything else is spot on. You def got the BIG picture. Thank you so much. That really helped me out

At that point she didn't trust you pure and simple. She had to have to have been faithful for 4 years. We are who we are until we find a soul that we meet that tells us "it's ok" ...