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Wed 19 Dec, 2012 09:59 am
I am a 33 years old working women mother of 2, when I joined this co. I was divorce, I use to be reporting directly to a manger who was not so pleased about me actually he is a different type of people his mentality is strange, he is 3 years older than me, he is still single, he was not dealing with me directly, he was avoiding dealing with me, and whenever he talks to me he loses his words and have no control on his body language, he was staring at me all the time and makes me notice that, but sometimes when I catch his eyes he looks away, it last for 18 months, although I really liked him & I wished if he could approach me, yea he shows different emotions in front of others but when he looks into my eyes I gets that type of vibes which pushes me from chest , he keeps remembering each single thing about me.. After that I was forced to remarried my x husband because of my kids needed their father, I was not happy but it happen, after that he showed lot of anger towards me and gave up on me for the General Manager so am now reporting directly to the GM, he still keeps starring into my eyes, he makes me crazy with his mixed his emotions, sometimes he approaches me with nice words like honey dear sweetie & the 2nd day he really ignores me, once I was driving on the fast track 100 speed and I saw his car on the slaw track when he saw my car he came after me in speed his car was right behind mine then he passed me a side to let me look towards him then he came right in front of my car after that he was driving right beside me, and i felt like he is approaching me in somehow, next day he was different person, those hidden signs kept going on more than 3 years but nothing happen, but know he treats me so nice every one notice that he is changed towards me, he smiles he makes me laugh with jokes, when he takes to me his tone changes to polite, but we still not really talking to each other like real colleagues, last week I moved to sit right in front of his desk, and when he came the office boy went to him to serve him coffee he started saying a poem in loud to the office boy saying that " he feels like telling what in his heart and he is scared to say it, he wants a girls but can’t approach her" and staff like that and the office boy was turning red and saying stop that please I can’t understand what you say, he kept saying that poem for more than 5 minutes.. Then he tweeted the same in tweeter. I don't know am really confused, he likes me or not, everyone knows that my marriage is in failure but how can I do anything.. I keep dreaming about him with me, in my 24 hours am just thinking about him nothing else, sometimes I feel like calling him & confess but I say it’s a bad idea he might not into me and put myself in trouble, I feel like resigning from this company maybe I can collect myself back.. i Really need him badly.. What to do? What is going on? Please help me..
@huda,
You're really 33?
-- sighs --
Okay. First off - huh? You were
forced to remarry your ex? I'm going to go with you and everyone involved in this being outside of the US. 'Cause the likelihood of that happening here is pretty dang small.
Anyway - what, exactly, is stopping you from talking to this guy? You work with him. And he is no longer your supervisor. So ask him -
let's get coffee after work sometimes. And see what happens. I am assuming you are still married so, let's face it, you can't have much happen, right?
Right? Because that would be a nasty thing to do to your husband and it would set a poor example for your children, right?
Right? But you can always ask -
what's going on? Are you flirting with me? I am a married woman and this is confusing and upsetting to me.
A nice guy will pull back, may or may not admit that he's flirting but at least will make an effort to change his behavior so that you are not as uncomfortable.
So - open your mouth and
ask.
@jespah,
I cant`s as i said i really like him, am married with no relation with husband.. We are in eastern region i need to give up on my dreams to please my kids.. And above that me & my husband agreed that this marriage will last till we feel that the kids grow up & they can understand that we both are not meant to be for each other (temporary marriage) its really complicated, no one can understand..
@huda,
Well, you are not free to have a relationship with this weird dude at work so forget about it. He sounds very immature, playing all these stupid games.
@huda,
He's 36 and acts like that?
You must be desperate to be so taken in by this kind of guy.
@huda,
Your another woman dear, just another woman.
The day for this man is novel because you are there, he appreciates you being there, he would not have you not there, he jokes and he plays since in his calm and non-consequential life around you and those he can speak freely to, there is a sense of 'belonging'.
Irritations force movement of people and lesser contact, irritations are deemed as your overactive pondering of the situation, which sounds to be not entirely put forward concisely according to your beliefs towards him.
Love and future is not reserved for you alone in this mans mind.. It might be one day, if that is what you want, though not mentioning it and reading the tea leaves will change zero.
Or replace the above with, Married whore.. Stop it! (isnt it?)
He finds you intriguingly beautiful. (or you omit in absolutely womanly nature the mistakes you make, far exceeding the norm, which is not probable)