he's leaving because he doesnt want to cheat

You might want to consider stopping the relationship now while you still have your dignity. Yes, it sounds harsh and my apologies if it is hard to hear, but this all seems to be all at his convenience and at his will ... not yours.

If he wants to take a break..as your loving partner, how is it that you are supposed to put your feelings on hold?

I hope you don't ever have his baby because these taking breaks are notoriously incovenient for child raising.

Find someone more local who REALLY loves you.

5 times in 3 months = about 1 meeting/18 days or so. Sex every time, including the first time, I assume, which is when you gave it up to him. During the 85 days (of 90 in three months) he didn't see you, he slept with another woman. He rarely contacts you. Now he says he wants to break up and see other people. He claims all will be wonderful and you will marry when you (not him) get a job. Such an interesting requirement.

You honestly think, once you get a job, he won't find some other reason to put off you riding off together into the sunset?

Be amenable to a break. A permanent one. He does not want to have anything with you. He is getting everything, everything, everything, and is giving you nearly nothing in return. At least he has the decency to call it quits but he does not have the decency or courage to stop stringing you along.

Get out of this now, and be happy you aren't married, as right now it's considerably easier for you to extricate yourself. I'm sorry, but it's over. But it never really started in the first place.

My views on this would leave everyone with a sour look...

He's 28 and you are 23???

He's way ahead of you, dear. Wake up and smell the coffee.

thank u for the advice ragman. i really appreciate it.. yes it do breaks my heart.. but i do have to forget him. Yes you're right he's really not a keeper. Now i have to move on. Thank u.

tnx jespah. ive met him 3 years ago. we see each other once every 5 months. he's calling me sometimes.. weve been friends.. that 5 times that we see each other was the moment weve been in relationship.. and yes, that includes the day something happened between us.
You're right. He's requirement is such a foolishness.. Good thing im not married. anyways, he being a cheater runs in their blood. he's father and brother, also have different girls.. thanx a lot.