Quote:These people don't just affect one person, they often affect others as well, even if not intended.
She drives my husband nuts.
Yes, I am sure some of this is wedding stress for her- I will give her that. She was in my wedding and I am sure that she felt obligated to ask me to be in hers. My wedding was informal- because that is my personality/ style. So, part of my irritation is this elaborate wedding & me hating the whole pretense of it. All of these things -- on top of -- her clingyness, inability to take no for an answer- it is almost like she doesnt hear it, her blatent rudeness etc... make me stress out about it. I said yes to be in the wedding & so I will do it- and happily.
This week there was the woman at work, not too long ago there was a similar situation with my sister in law, and I just began wondering why I seem to attract these type of people. Or maybe they act this way with me only. I was wondering if everyone finds themselves in these situations often & if not------- what am I doing to encourage this behavior.
I would not say that people generally find me nice. I think I am often painfully honest. I would guess that people more often describe me as bitchy- and that is fine with me. Whenever someone asks me how I feel about that I reply, "nice is highly overrated". So, I am amazed that this keeps happening.
My sister in law- she was a complete leech- tryed to move in with us, she has moved furniture into our house & garage, I have helped her move 3 times in two years, she would ask me if I would like to go out to eat & somehow I would get stuck paying, never sent us xmas cards, birthday cards etc---- the list is endless---- Not true-- ended a few months ago when she told me she was sleeping with a mutual friend husband who has a 9 month old baby at home & I told her that I found it morally objectionable. She was initially upset - but continued to call for favors until she got the hint - but it took 4 months. Litterally 4 months with her calling every other day and a few times at my work. I let that go on too long because she is a relative that I have to see often.