its either be done or be in

Anyone in a relationship where "he won't let her have friends" (are you sure that's all friends, or just male friends, BTW?), well, that's just a big ole red flag. Isolation is often (not always) a prelude to abuse or proto-abuse.

HOWEVER (and I'm shouting that so that maybe you'll actually read the remainder of this post), you have an agenda - to have her for yourself. Perhaps you are seeing/hearing what you want to hear. And, even if your observations are accurate, and even if she really does need an intervention, you would be doing it for selfish reasons.

Therefore, talk to a female friend of hers. Is this friend seeing the same pattern? Is there truly something to be concerned about? If there is, then suggest to the female friend to talk to her. Not in a "hey, you guys need to break up ASAP" manner. Instead, more along the lines of "we miss you and are your friends and want to see you" manner. There are men who are not abusive jerks but who are still in the "mine mine mine" zone. He might be one of those and, if he sees he is not threatened by her friends, he'll slack off.

But he has reasons to feel threatened by you, because you have an agenda.

See how that works?

Oh, and understand something. People who we desire who are in relationships with others aren't always in a bad way. Even if that relationship seems less than ideal from the outside, understand that you are looking at it with your own attitude, your own glasses on. Things may be better than you believe. In real life, rarely are things that black and white and obvious.

all friends. he don't want her going out or anything to with other people. I did talk to her female friend. her friend the one who told me all of this last night. she said the girl I like texted her and said she loved talking to me and she miss me. me and the stopped talking for like 3 months because she told my friend s she ain't like me when she did she just ain't want them to know she did. he don't even know me and I don't know him.....how can you be threaten of a guy you don't know? thanks for reply it was VERY helpful and gave me a even more understanding of this whole thing.

If she's being isolated from everyone, then it's a serious issue. I forget - are you all in school? If you are, then talk to someone in authority. They can't necessarily do much, but the more people who observe this, the better.

nah she in college though but I just work with her and her friend that told me.

Unless you hear this right from her mouth, it's all gossip.

Ask this girl for coffee after work and find out what's going on. She may just be having a rough time with her BF at this time.

Make sure you are seeing this situation as it is, not what you'd like it to be. She may just need a friend to talk to.

Stay out of the gossip loop. You keep saying that the woman did or said something but you're only repeating what someone else has said. You have absolutely no idea of the truth of it.

Let her friends deal with her/talk to her.

Move on with your own live and stop listening to/encouraging gossip.

You have no understanding of what's going on based on the steady diet of gossip you seem to be living on.

no she doesn't.

her "friend" is saying these things.

If it is true, her friend should be assisting her in dealing with this. Tell her friend you don't want to hear anymore of this second-hand reporting. Her friend can find someone else to gossip to while you move on with your life.

so even though she tells one person this its stil gossip? she afraid to talk to me about how she feels about me and her Bf well she never speaks to me about him. she will prolly turn down that going out after work me because her Bf don't want her hanging no other people but him

if she is in college, she can reach out to instructors/counsellors at college

her friend should help her with that while you stay out of it

your right....but I don't think her friend can help her...her friend kinda clueless with advice