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Am I even seen as an option? Seriously ,Relationships or Causal Sex?

 
 
Reply Tue 16 Oct, 2012 11:30 am
Am I even seen as an option? Seriously ,Relationships or Causal Sex?
• I WOULD ONLY LIKE ANSWERS FROM SINGLE ABLED BODIED WOMEN AGED 19-30 (I say this because it will give me a clearer answer because a disabled person might already have a coloured option and therefore give a colourd answer the same go’s for older people different generation

If you sat down to watch tv it’s the same for me although im just sat down all the time that’s how I see it. The only thing I cant do is walk I can get about on my hands and knees or use my wheelchair, I am not paralyzed I feel everything and I can have sex

As a disabled person in a wheelchair I may have or may not have a warped view about disability and how it is preserved stigma etc.….. all I would like is an upfront option (good or bad) just no sugar coated bullshit. Please be brutally honest

My Question
Am I even seen as an option to A Women ether casual (one night) or for relationship, obviously we’ve got to get along and that but am I Being taken seriously? Ive been in relationships before but It felt like I was being taken for a mug more like a love you have for your grandma

Am I even seen as an option? Seriously

no sugar coated bullshit. Please be brutally honest

Joe 24
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Mame
 
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Reply Tue 16 Oct, 2012 11:59 am
@joeyboy24,
Unfortunately I can't reply because I'm over 30.

Edit: and married.
jcboy
 
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Reply Tue 16 Oct, 2012 12:02 pm
@Mame,
I’m under 30 but I didn’t reply because he wanted advice from women only. Although I do have quite a of bit experience in this area.
joeyboy24
 
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Reply Tue 16 Oct, 2012 01:12 pm
@jcboy,
it's not set in stone i would just of preferred to get a women perspective on it fire away everything helps
sozobe
 
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Reply Tue 16 Oct, 2012 01:18 pm
@joeyboy24,
If it's not set in stone...

Being in a wheelchair is one element out of many.

There are people in wheelchairs who are seen as "options," and others who aren't. But that's a lot more about the other elements than the wheelchair per se.

Are you good looking? Athletic? (I know a lot of guys in wheelchairs who have v. nice arms.) Nice guy? Sense of humor? Confident? Good listener? Etc., etc.

I'm not in a wheelchair but have been very active in the disability community for a long time, and I know all kinds of people in wheelchairs who are in relationships, in various permutations. (The man's in a wheelchair, the woman's not; the woman's in a wheelchair and the man's not; they're both in wheelchairs; they're both women; they're both men; etc.!)
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Mame
 
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Reply Tue 16 Oct, 2012 01:29 pm
For me it's all about personality and what a person does with his life. If he's interesting, funny, kind, smart, etc. and has a job and interests, it wouldn't put me off.

However, if he was lazy or mean or felt sorry for himself, no way, wheelchair or not.
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jespah
 
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Reply Tue 16 Oct, 2012 01:31 pm
I'm a married woman and I'm out of your age range.

That having been said, I love men who are smart and have a sense of humor. Have you got both? Then hell yeah, let's talk, I would say, if I were available.

Is physical attraction a part of it? Well, of course. I think we'd all be lying if we said it wasn't. But I do not see a wheelchair as a dealbreaker, no. I am curious about one thing - I have an old house that isn't accessible (a ramp would need to be built). Would that be a dealbreaker for you?
joeyboy24
 
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Reply Tue 16 Oct, 2012 02:09 pm
@jespah,
no I'd just jump out might look a bit weird me crawling around but hey u get around on ya feet i get around on my knees it dosnt really bother me wether it wether it would bother other people im not so sure ive meet some really dumb people so far pats or the head nuns telling me me they'l pray for no im not joking my ex that ran ondff a fucked my mate people awwing at me your cute yer thats kool and everthing but im not 5 its not like im dribbling i can speak get around move around dress my self im clean i had a sense of humour well have but i cant get over how amazing think some people are even my family no ones perfect but i acually feel like everyone i meet is like that first thing out there mouth i know someone in a wheelchair " i think of it like this if i had a mole on my face why the **** would i want to meet other people with moles on there face" I really dont get it and sorry for all that but thats how its been so far may so advice in generel i dont know
jespah
 
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Reply Tue 16 Oct, 2012 02:26 pm
@joeyboy24,
Okay, so I'd need to sand the steps. I can do that. Smile

And Cripes - head patting? Egad, --shaking head-- there are no words for how unmitigatingly stupid some people are, eh?
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