SCoates wrote:That's not good. Threatening to go to school with him, and MAKING him apologize are going to make him like you less. Would you have liked that when you were his age?
Who cares if the kid doesn't like it! Do you think she likes going to school to hear about all the crap he's doing. My son never pulled that stuff in school and he knew damn well that I wouldn't have hesitated to embarrass him to no end if he did. Don't you think it embarrasses her when she is called into school when this kid is tripping teachers?
Many times parents have to do things they don't like to do, but we do what's best for our kids. Sometimes the lessons are hard, but how else will they learn. Unacceptable behavior needs to be dealt with when it comes to both children and adults as well. I've had to do things that I didn't want to do to teach my son a lesson and in the end, he respects me for it and knows that everything I do is for his own good and is simply because I love him. My son has told me he hated me I can't count the times, but it didn't take long for him to tell me that he didn't mean it and then gives me a hug, a kiss on the cheek saying "I love you mom". That is when we sit down and have a long talk about whatever it is that went down. Things need to be talked about after the fact just so the child understands exactly where you're coming from and why you do what you have to do.
These people opened their hearts and their door to this kid and he should be extremely grateful for that. He's 14 years old and is old enough to know damn well that his actions will have an effect on the people who are responsible for him. This kids needs to be sat down and given some rules and told what will happen if he doesn't follow them. They need to explain their obligations as parents to him and assure him that their own child would get the same exact treatment. It's not easy being a parent, but it's important and our responsabilty to do what we have to do for the childs own good, whether we like it or not.