Thank you all for your support, oh how i need it to regain my strength.
As far as touching him in anyway to get his attention, or to punish him i will not do, but would love to do it. the problem is his mother. I am deathly afraid of what she would do. Why i say that is she is a crack hor and very evil, i dont want my house caught on fire, or sugar in my gas tank, becuase im doing the same thing to him as she did, but im not his mom so i dont have the right in her eyes. She would do something to me, but it wont be a bitch fight she is to scared for that. That's why I dont hit him and wont.
To answer some questions; we got full costody of Zach, she didnt even show up to court to defend her side of why she did it. Zach's real father showed up after just getting out of jailand stated Zach needs to be with us because his mother does to much crack. Now she has no rights to him at all. But if Zach dont change i want to give her son and her rights back.
As far as my son's behavior, he dont put up with any, If I ask my son to do something and he dont do it , He is right there to make it happen, and that is what I want from him the united front. but with Zach complete opposite. say nothing does nothing,which just gives zach more power to treat me the way he wants to and do as he wants. I feel my husband feels its to late for Zach and he is trying harder with my son not to let him slip as Zach has.
I am going to see someone at the end of the month, to hopefull get professional help for my sanity and get advice on how to help change them without them knowing? maybe if it's possible......
Anyway thank you all again... Oh im making him do lunch detetion with the princible for a week and he his writing a letter of opoligy to his teacher that has to be signed and returned, if he dont i will go to school and sit thru his classes till he has that teacher (which is 6th hour) to make sure she gets it, and he know's about it too, I hope he does right I DONT WANT TO GO BACK TO SCHOOL LOL