It's not really the taste of alcohol though, I had some bad experiences as a kid with some near-alcoholic type people, so I just decided a long time ago i didn't want to drink. i try to hide it from people though by using non-see though cups and such at parties so that it wont alienate me, no idea if it works though. thanks for the tips though!
Hmmm, so NOT drinking alcoholic drinks alienates people from other people now?
I'm not making any judgment- I'm just asking. I guess I felt a little pressure to at least try it when I was your age, but I never felt any pressure to make people think I was drinking when I wasn't. I've never been a particularly big drinker either. I don't mind a cold beer on a hot day, but no, I'm not one to stand around a bar and throw alcohol down my throat. Why should I if I don't want to?
Apart from all the other obvious drawbacks of drinking alot - it's expensive. Actually when I go to pubs now, I start on diet coke or even cups of hot tea after two pints, while all around me people are drinking the hard stuff and I don't even give it a thought, except to feel okay about what I'm doing because it's what I feel like doing.
But maybe that's because I'm a girl. Maybe there's a double standard for drinking as per males and females.
Maybe girls aren't supposed to get sloppy drunk, but males are allowed to - I don't know...
I do know that I have had men tell me they find it very attractive that I DON'T drink to excess and smoke, because many of the women they meet out and about do.
So I would think that there are probably women who feel the same way about men who don't drink to excess or smoke.
I guess I would just advise you to concentrate on what you like doing and be yourself and chances are you'll find someone who appreciates what you have to offer.
You sound like a nice person as you are, I wouldn't feel that I needed to pretend to drink if I were you.
But I would make it clear if you don't have a girlfriend and you are interested in someone as a girlfriend that despite the fact that it looks like you 'have it all' that actually you're not attached and if you find someone you like, ask her out.
That's the only way she'll definitely get the message.