I'm an Kansas girl moving to London

You have met this guy, right?

He doesn't do it very often, but sometimes c.i. makes a good point. Here, he makes a good point.

Well yes he is an accountant right now, I know its a huge step. I wanted to wait a few years but he and his parents want me over there as soon as possible

Sounds fishy from my POV.

yes

why do you say that

I still think you should find a way to talk to your family about it.

but, if you are 18, you can fill out all the paperwork by yourself. and get your passport and immunizations.

I am nearly fearless, and twice your age, but I cannot imagine taking the leap alone and naive as you are...

good luck to you.

I hope my point was not lost on you.

Frankly, it doesn't sound to me that you know this guy very well. And I have a suspicion that you might be moving too quickly in deciding to marry this guy, and that this is a decision you will live to regret.

I hope I am wrong. But the fact that he only recently asked you where you lived, and you only recently found out he lived in London, does not sound as if your marriage has a good foundation.

Because we really don't have enough information to make a considered opinion about this issue. Your age, separating from your family to move across the pond, your fiance and his motivation and maturity, how well you know each other, that your fiance's parents are so eager to have you move to London, are all "red" flags that would make any parent concerned. Your mother has your best interest at heart; believe me.

You didn't know he lived in London.

He didn't know where you lived until recently.

His family wants you there asap.

Something seems quite wrong with the details.

How do you communicate with him? have your parents met his parents?

Do his parents run a brothel? Slave traders?

Only reason I could think of for them wanting you to move half way around the world, away from family and friends, to "marry" someone you scarcely seem to know. Brothels like them young, I understand!

Far too many red flags for me, too.

That had crossed my mind. That, or maybe the family is from some ethnic group that basically sequesters the wives.

Have you seen the movie "Taken"?

Dancing is great

No. I seldom watch movies. Been known to do a little reading, though.

CI is right. What's the rush?