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I'm an Kansas girl moving to London

 
 
Ticomaya
 
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Reply Sun 23 Sep, 2012 08:09 pm
@Sukarakuran,
Sukarakuran wrote:
We never talked about it before until he asked me where I lived ...

You have met this guy, right?
Ticomaya
 
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Reply Sun 23 Sep, 2012 08:10 pm
@cicerone imposter,
He doesn't do it very often, but sometimes c.i. makes a good point. Here, he makes a good point.
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Sukarakuran
 
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Reply Sun 23 Sep, 2012 08:17 pm
@cicerone imposter,
Well yes he is an accountant right now, I know its a huge step. I wanted to wait a few years but he and his parents want me over there as soon as possible
cicerone imposter
 
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Reply Sun 23 Sep, 2012 08:19 pm
@Sukarakuran,
Sounds fishy from my POV.
Sukarakuran
 
  1  
Reply Sun 23 Sep, 2012 08:22 pm
@Ticomaya,
yes
Sukarakuran
 
  1  
Reply Sun 23 Sep, 2012 08:22 pm
@cicerone imposter,
why do you say that
Rockhead
 
  1  
Reply Sun 23 Sep, 2012 08:26 pm
@Sukarakuran,
I still think you should find a way to talk to your family about it.

but, if you are 18, you can fill out all the paperwork by yourself. and get your passport and immunizations.

I am nearly fearless, and twice your age, but I cannot imagine taking the leap alone and naive as you are...

good luck to you.
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Ticomaya
 
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Reply Sun 23 Sep, 2012 08:34 pm
@Sukarakuran,
Sukarakuran wrote:
yes

I hope my point was not lost on you.

Frankly, it doesn't sound to me that you know this guy very well. And I have a suspicion that you might be moving too quickly in deciding to marry this guy, and that this is a decision you will live to regret.

I hope I am wrong. But the fact that he only recently asked you where you lived, and you only recently found out he lived in London, does not sound as if your marriage has a good foundation.
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cicerone imposter
 
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Reply Sun 23 Sep, 2012 08:35 pm
@Sukarakuran,
Because we really don't have enough information to make a considered opinion about this issue. Your age, separating from your family to move across the pond, your fiance and his motivation and maturity, how well you know each other, that your fiance's parents are so eager to have you move to London, are all "red" flags that would make any parent concerned. Your mother has your best interest at heart; believe me.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Mon 24 Sep, 2012 08:16 am
@Sukarakuran,
Sukarakuran wrote:
I wanted to wait a few years but he and his parents want me over there as soon as possible


You didn't know he lived in London.

He didn't know where you lived until recently.

His family wants you there asap.

Something seems quite wrong with the details.

How do you communicate with him? have your parents met his parents?
margo
 
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Reply Wed 26 Sep, 2012 01:47 am
@ehBeth,
Do his parents run a brothel? Slave traders?

Only reason I could think of for them wanting you to move half way around the world, away from family and friends, to "marry" someone you scarcely seem to know. Brothels like them young, I understand!

Far too many red flags for me, too.
roger
 
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Reply Wed 26 Sep, 2012 02:15 am
@margo,
That had crossed my mind. That, or maybe the family is from some ethnic group that basically sequesters the wives.
Ticomaya
 
  1  
Reply Wed 26 Sep, 2012 04:54 am
@roger,
Have you seen the movie "Taken"?
harris20
 
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Reply Thu 27 Sep, 2012 01:26 am
@Sukarakuran,
Dancing is great
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roger
 
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Reply Thu 27 Sep, 2012 01:57 am
@Ticomaya,
No. I seldom watch movies. Been known to do a little reading, though.
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IRFRANK
 
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Reply Sun 30 Sep, 2012 06:48 pm
@cicerone imposter,
CI is right. What's the rush?
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