@JPLosman0711,
My my women have a duty to themselves and far more impotant to any future children to picked mates that is likely to be long term partners in the enterprise of raising children assuming that they are planning on having children.
All too often sadly they do not do so and the result is the suffering of defenseless children.
Love is wonderful but it does not justify a woman having children father by a man she know or should know is not such a person.
Love does not placed a roof over a child head or keep his home warm in winter or provide food and health care and so on.................