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How big a deal to girls view performance anxiety in men????
I am 21 years old and up until this past year have had no problem getting and maintaining an erection and performing sexually. Then all of a sudden I was hooking up with a girl I really liked and I could not get an erection. After a while I was able to and she was patient and no problems after that with her for a while. Then around 6 to 8 months later I had been with three different women and all three of them I could not get it up the first time I had sex with them and have not spoken to any of them since because they are all very attractive women and I know I blew that chance. Each time with them I would start to think about the last time I couldnt get it up and it just got worse and worse and now I have this horrible streak of failed erections going. Keep in mind I had been drinking as I go to college so I had been at the bars all night etc but is this a classic case of performance anxiety or something else? and what are some good natural cures for sexual anxiety medicine wise or physiological?

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@wildcat212,

A) Drink less before you're going to have sex. It degrades performance anyway, and apparently it increases your anxiety spiral.
B) Try having sex with women you know better, versus just the hottest girl you can get for a quick one. As, date for a while before hitting the sack. You clearly aren't, if you're garnering 3 partners in a span of no more than 6 - 8 months. Hanging around with someone, and knowing them a lot better, tends to decrease initial performance issues, mainly because there isn't quite as much riding on it.
C) Consider talking to a professional about this, as you alluded to. If it bothers you, talk it out.

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I agree with the above post from Jespah. For you, it's probably 90% in the mind and 10% in the dick.

Guilt, shame, eagerness to please, uncertainty, fear, impulsive sex, etc etc. are the demons you have to deal with.

Slow down with the action and make it mean something.

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@wildcat212,

Not too much beer but maybe some before could help.
Try some drugs similar to speed and extasy. Maybe a lot of coffee, I'd try that too.

See a doctor or try to find some Viagra. I heard about this meds on tv, it should work.

Praise God.

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@Mak54291,

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speed and extasy.

Praise God?

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@jespah,

assuming jerkin it probably affects performance too ha

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