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Mental Decline & Dependency/Coping With Aging Loved Ones

 
 
ossobuco
 
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Reply Sun 25 Apr, 2010 03:37 pm
@Walter Hinteler,
May she rest in peace.

((Walter))
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JLNobody
 
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Reply Sun 25 Apr, 2010 03:49 pm
I do believe two things right now: she is enjoying absolute peace and you deserve to be the last person she saw in this life. Love and admiration to you Walter.
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edgarblythe
 
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Reply Sun 25 Apr, 2010 03:54 pm
Echoing the others. ((((Walter))))
ossobuco
 
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Reply Sun 25 Apr, 2010 03:58 pm
@edgarblythe,
I'll echo what JLNobody said so well.
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msolga
 
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Reply Sun 25 Apr, 2010 04:04 pm
Thankfully a peaceful ending.
Thinking much like JLN, Walter.
And thinking of you.
How are you coping?
Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Sun 25 Apr, 2010 04:19 pm
@msolga,
Thanks to all!

I'm fine - I knew it before and I'm glad
a) that she didn't have to suffer (a lot),
b) that I've been with her quite some time during her last days, and
c) during her last hour
d) that I'm a good son and brother and spoke with my sister.
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Eva
 
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Reply Sun 25 Apr, 2010 04:56 pm
Rest in peace, Mother Hinteler.

You've handled all of this remarkably well, Walter. I admire you for it. There is no easy way to lose one's mother, but you've handled this with grace and dignity. I hope the next few days go smoothly for you, and you are able to get some rest.



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Swimpy
 
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Reply Sun 25 Apr, 2010 05:00 pm
@Walter Hinteler,
I'm sorry for your loss, Walter. She went peacefully, it seems. That is a blessing.
Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Sun 25 Apr, 2010 09:36 pm
@Swimpy,
Thanks again for your kind words.


Yes, she went peacefully. And I'm very glad that I was there and could watch it.

The coming days hopefully will be peaceful, but filled with work.
CalamityJane
 
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Reply Sun 25 Apr, 2010 10:29 pm
@Walter Hinteler,
I am so sorry for your loss, Walter. It surely was the best for your mother
and she'll be resting in peace now, nonetheless, for you it is a tremendous loss
and the terrible void will be felt for a long time. Mothers are special, they
always will be.
Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Sun 25 Apr, 2010 11:39 pm
@CalamityJane,
Danke, CJ!
Dutchy
 
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Reply Sun 25 Apr, 2010 11:50 pm
@Walter Hinteler,
I'm sorry to read of your loss Walter, I know how you feel, I followed a similar path. Wishing you strength in the coming days.
aidan
 
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Reply Mon 26 Apr, 2010 12:53 am
@Dutchy,
You've been a wonderful and caring son to your mother and it sounds as if she was aware of and comforted by your love for her. My wish for you is that you find comfort in knowing that you loved her as she deserved to be loved, and had done all that a son could do for his mother.

You have my admiration and sympathy Walter.
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McTag
 
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Reply Mon 26 Apr, 2010 01:45 am

You are a good man, Walter.

You did everything you could, and that was a lot, to make her life bearable and dignified at the end.

I am sorry for all the troubles you had to face. I hope you can now start the recovery, yourself. It will take some time, I can imagine.

You, and Mrs Walter, are in the thoughts of the McTags.
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Letty
 
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Reply Mon 26 Apr, 2010 04:13 am
@Walter Hinteler,
I have been where you have been, Walter.

For your mother:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2RskSMhNPoM&feature=related
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Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Mon 26 Apr, 2010 06:11 am
Thanks - it isn't so difficult as some may think, since I had had a couple of months to be prepared for this day/these days.

ehBeth
 
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Reply Mon 26 Apr, 2010 07:03 am
@Walter Hinteler,
I'm glad you had the opportunity to have these days and years with your mother.

I hope you and Mrs. Walter will have some time to take a break for yourselves.
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Butrflynet
 
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Reply Mon 26 Apr, 2010 12:05 pm
@Walter Hinteler,
Walter, I'm glad for you that you and your mother had several of her last hours of lucidness together.

May your memories be filled with her love and joy of her life and family.
JLNobody
 
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Reply Mon 26 Apr, 2010 01:47 pm
@Butrflynet,
Yes, Butrflynet has it right. The memory of your mother is a resource for you to enjoy the rest of your life.
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Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Tue 27 Apr, 2010 12:01 pm
Thanks, ehBeth and Butrflynet.

My aunt is doing fine, - I 'prepared' her on Sunday, the padre finished it very well on Monday.

I've phoned my sister a couple of times.
She phoned me once, today.

At first, it seemed that they would just come for the funeral (and mass) and didn't want to stay here longer (= not attending the "after-funeral-coffee-and-cake").
Today, it sounds a bit different since they'll arrive already tomorrow (and the funeral will be on Thursday afternoon).

We'll see ...
 

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