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Mental Decline & Dependency/Coping With Aging Loved Ones

 
 
Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Mon 3 Dec, 2012 12:58 pm
@Walter Hinteler,
The Rechtspflegertold me today that in her opinion it is a judge's affair to confirm my statement, not to use percutaneous endoscopic gastrostomy (PEG). [Rechtspfleger are judicial officials to whom judicial tasks were transferred to be done by themselves independently and in their own responsibility. They belong to the higher staff of the judicial organisation. 'Mine' is in charge of some dozens of persons under legal guardianship. There are at least four Rechtspfleger attached to the 'mental health court', which is a department of our local 'Magistrates' Court'. ]
But I had to talk with my aunt's doctor ... wink, wink, ...

He, the doctor, an internist and family doctor, accepted what I've told him. He'll start to assist/support the palliative care.

My aunt still has got some money. But no-one will have access to her bank accounts when she'd died until the "inheritance problems" (heirs are only my sister parent's daughter and I) are solved.
As my aunt's legal guardian I will make a deposit (trust) for the funeral - the above mentioned rechtspfleger gave me some additional hints how to do that legally ....
Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Tue 11 Dec, 2012 10:26 am
@Walter Hinteler,
Meanwhile, the psychiatrist has changed the medication, trying to reduce the "loss of control of her actions" = aggressiveness. The side effects (sleepiness, bad blood parameters) wouldn't really matter ... now, she said.

For the very first time since about two weeks, my aunt spoke to me today a complete sentence: "What are you doing here?" That could have been a kind of last struggle, I think.
Arbit
 
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Reply Tue 18 Dec, 2012 11:03 am
@Walter Hinteler,
I think you should not worry about, what you aunt ask to you, as she were really suffering through a severe mental and physical illness and need some real care and attention to be paid for her. But of course, with the time she will get to know how you have work and strive for her excellence.

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ehBeth
 
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Reply Tue 18 Dec, 2012 11:12 am
@Walter Hinteler,
It is good to know that you're still there, still caring.

You've been an awfully good son and nephew.
Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Wed 19 Dec, 2012 03:44 pm
@ehBeth,
Thanks.

No news - neither in the one nor the other direction.
Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Mon 21 Jan, 2013 02:08 am
@Walter Hinteler,
Since some time, my aunt now gets 1,000 ml saline solution per day - ordered by her family doctor (an internist).
She still refuses to drink and to eat (staff tries to feat up to one yoghurt per day).

Yesterday, it was the first time since about four weeks that she spoke more than two words with the nurses - she hasn't spoken with me since she came back from the psychiatric hospital.

... ... ... ...
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Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Sun 10 Feb, 2013 02:45 am
Just got a phone call from the home: her 'status' is now officially "dying".
roger
 
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Reply Sun 10 Feb, 2013 04:37 am
@Walter Hinteler,
Walter, I'm sorry for all you've had to go through.
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Ragman
 
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Reply Sun 10 Feb, 2013 10:30 am
@Walter Hinteler,
My sympathies to you and your family, Walter. May you all have the peace and good energy you need.
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Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Sun 10 Feb, 2013 10:33 am
This (late) afternoon, my aunt looked very ... peaceful.
Staff really helps her a lot to be comfortable.

I've signed that she doesn't get any more saline intravenous infusions.

I'm sure, she'll fall asleep soon and without pain.
Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Sun 10 Feb, 2013 11:36 pm
@Walter Hinteler,
My aunt died about an hour ago. May she find her eternal rest.
Ragman
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2013 12:54 am
@Walter Hinteler,
Sorry for your loss. May she RIP.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2013 03:13 am
@Walter Hinteler,
Thoughts with you Walter.
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Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2013 01:42 pm
Thanks!
ossobuco
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2013 01:47 pm
@Walter Hinteler,
Hugs to you and Ulla, Walter.
May your aunt rest in peace.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2013 01:49 pm
@Walter Hinteler,
I hope your aunt has found peace.

Is it finally time for Walter and Mrs. Walter to just chill?
Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2013 02:01 pm
@ehBeth,
Thanks, ehBeth
ehBeth wrote:

Is it finally time for Walter and Mrs. Walter to just chill?
Should be so, but ... today already the (foreseen) trouble started with my sister/BIL ... and we've got other 'cases', too.
roger
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2013 02:04 pm
@Walter Hinteler,
Ay yi yi!

Keep hanging in there, Walter.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2013 02:08 pm
@Walter Hinteler,
Good grief.
Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2013 02:17 pm
@ehBeth,
That's actually a tame analysis about the phone call Mrs Walter had had with my sister and BIL.
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