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Sun 8 Jul, 2012 06:18 pm
my hubby of 2 years told me, much to my surprise that he "needs and wants more" out of our sexual relationship. im shocked because I think were a pretty freaky couple...we've pretty much done every position in the book, used sex toys, tried different lubricants, we've even "traded places"....were a pretty open couple considering we both enjoy anal stimulation, so we've tried a lot of things but now he's brought to my attention that he'd like me to bring something else to the table, further explore my sexuality and what makes me hot.....I asked him if he wanted a threesome and he refused. He said he'd rather me bring some other different ideas to the bedroom that didn't involve another person but more of something exciting that we can share between the two of us. What are some kinky things I could do to please him? Foreplay? Any ideas? I'm desperate to keep my man happy and am open to any ideas. The whole purpose is for us to explore and enjoy. I want him to feel sexy, i want to turn him on, i want to make him scream, i want to drive him crazy! Any tips/ideas/suggestions?
@bonnieseville,
It really seems that if he is looking for more adventure, it's on him to start coming up with some ideas.
@bonnieseville,
Maybe he'd be in to the thrill of danger... Have sex outside... Maybe hike a mountain or skinny dip in a lake or ocean or spelunk... and seduce him. Don't tell him your plan before you start stripping.
Sometimes, it's not the "inventiveness" - it's just seemingly spontaneous or different. The hottest thing that happened to me recently wasn't unusual at all - just unexpected.
Another idea. Get yourself some ben wa balls and just start toning your vaginal muscles. After some progress, you may be able to send him through the roof with your control of his man thang. (grin) Knock him dead, sistah!
@Lash,
It's interesting how you can be so liberal [not the nasty meaning given in US circles] in some respects, Lash, and yet you are so conservative [not the nasty meaning given in US circles] in others.
You accept the prescriptions of English, I think because you are too lazy to think them thru and too afraid to confront a backward school system. You accept the predacious behavior of the US like a good little totalitarian, again because you are too afraid to confront a backward political system.
@bonnieseville,
If he wants more he should be telling you what more he wants, not having you try to guess. He should be telling you his fantasies, and then you both would decide what of them you want to make real.
If you are determined to guess then look back and try to figure out if there is a common thread in what have to date been his peak sexual experiences. Knowing what has gotten him off in the past is the best place to look for what will get him off in the future.
@bonnieseville,
Well there's a way to take a bit of the guess work out of things - get a few different sorts of porno's and pay attention to his reaction to them, and his reaction to particular scenes in them.
@vikorr,
vikorr wrote:
Well there's a way to take a bit of the guess work out of things - get a few different sorts of porno's and pay attention to his reaction to them, and his reaction to particular scenes in them.
It helps, but porno's tend to be one dimensional and not very representative of how real relationship sex goes. Getting him to open up about his fantasies will have a better result. It also has the benefit of being an interaction between the two of them, watching his interaction with a porno is second rate so far as a relationship building exercise,
@Lash,
Hey Lash thanks for your input! Wanted to ask you if you could recommend a specific brand/website for the Ben wa balls? Was looking on Amazon but I wanted to know where u got yours. thanks
@bonnieseville,
Local sex shop - Good Vibrations. They're online too. I recommend the duotone. Here! Read all about it!
http://www.benwaballs.net/types_of_ben_wa_balls.html
@bonnieseville,
My wife and I, after 40 years of marriage and two children, had a long overdue discussion of this very matter. It helped our sexual relationship immensely, but I am too reserved to discuss these matters publicly and end up seeing them on Google. If you can find a way we could privately discuss this here, I would be pleased to discuss it.
@roger,
I agree with Roger. What your boyfriend might find especially pleasant is based on his desires alone, not what other men get hot over.
have you tried a multi-state killing spree ala mickey and mallory
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