Zero Interest in Sex

Are you stressed out about something that is going in your life or around you?
Are you distracted by something? Any money or job troubles?

Have you asked him if he can give you more foreplay? Could that be the issue for you? Is he trying to hurry the intimacy process or displaying frustration to you?

Has this ever happened to you before?

I'm not anymore stressed than before, and nothing much has changed.

Money problems aren't serious, nor is job problems.

He's tried lots of things to get me "in the mood". Nothing has worked. What do you mean by "hurry the intimacy process"?
Yeah, he's frustrated that I'm not wanting sex anymore. Part of it is him hurt, it seems like I don't want HIM anymore. But it's sex, I still love him just the same.

No, this has never happened.

What do you think that means?

To me that would mean trying to get to having intercourse before you're properly stimulated.

Perhaps he also has a climax before you have your climax.

Do you have a climax typically?

Based on what you've written, if it were me in that situation, I'd make a doctor's appointment. I'm no expert but I'd suggest that you get a physical with blood tests to determine whether or not my hormone level was in the correct range. That would be a good starting point.

Rule that out first and then go from there.

From there, perhaps a psychologist to figure out what might be affecting you emotionally.

No, I've always climaxed from sex, and he won't until I do.

I've wanted to talk to a psychologist, but I really don't have the money for that right now :/

If you consider this problem important enough perhaps you can find a way.
There are many counselors that may work with you on affordabilty using a sliding scale if expenses are the problem. If your relationship and sexuality is a priority, then a bit of research might turn up for you some important help.

As I wrote before, I would get a physical and see if there's an underlying health issue...first.

Are you taking anti-depressants? This article says they will kill your sex drive.

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2010/05/05/sex-on-antidepressants/

Are you taking contraceptives? The pill? If yes, perhaps you need to change
the dosage or product. It seems there is a hormonal imbalance that is causing you to lose interest in sex, especially since you liked it at one point.

Go to Planned Parenthood or another gynecologist of your choice, they can help you.

good point Hilbert I started taking Adderall-Xr at like 21 and I couldn't get a boner so I stopped taking pills all together eff that. Pills are evil and a lot of them have side effects. If you have any prescriptions read the papers that come along with em for side effects. If they do have a tendency to have sexual side effects I would find a pill that doesn't or stop taking it entirely.

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I'm only nineteen years old, I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years now. For the past few months I've had NO interest in sex. It's not him, I just don't want sex at all. I use to want it every single day, sometimes more. What's wrong? And how do I fix it?

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Reply report Sun 8 Jul, 2012 06:11 pm
@ElleAbri,
Are you stressed out about something that is going in your life or around you?
Are you distracted by something? Any money or job troubles?

Have you asked him if he can give you more foreplay? Could that be the issue for you? Is he trying to hurry the intimacy process or displaying frustration to you?

Has this ever happened to you before?
Signature How old are you anyway, you perseverate and never come up for air.
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Reply report Sun 8 Jul, 2012 06:16 pm
@Ragman,
I'm not anymore stressed than before, and nothing much has changed.

Money problems aren't serious, nor is job problems.

He's tried lots of things to get me "in the mood". Nothing has worked. What do you mean by "hurry the intimacy process"?
Yeah, he's frustrated that I'm not wanting sex anymore. Part of it is him hurt, it seems like I don't want HIM anymore. But it's sex, I still love him just the same.

No, this has never happened.
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Reply report Sun 8 Jul, 2012 07:02 pm
@ElleAbri,
Quote:

What do you mean by "hurry the intimacy process"?


What do you think that means?

To me that would mean trying to get to having intercourse before you're properly stimulated.

Perhaps he also has a climax before you have your climax.

Do you have a climax typically?

Based on what you've written, if it were me in that situation, I'd make a doctor's appointment. I'm no expert but I'd suggest that you get a physical with blood tests to determine whether or not my hormone level was in the correct range. That would be a good starting point.

Rule that out first and then go from there.

From there, perhaps a psychologist to figure out what might be affecting you emotionally.

Signature How old are you anyway, you perseverate and never come up for air.
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Reply report Mon 9 Jul, 2012 01:40 pm
@Ragman,
No, I've always climaxed from sex, and he won't until I do.

I've wanted to talk to a psychologist, but I really don't have the money for that right now :/
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Reply report Mon 9 Jul, 2012 02:02 pm
@ElleAbri,
If you consider this problem important enough perhaps you can find a way.
There are many counselors that may work with you on affordabilty using a sliding scale if expenses are the problem. If your relationship and sexuality is a priority, then a bit of research might turn up for you some important help.

As I wrote before, I would get a physical and see if there's an underlying health issue...first.
Signature How old are you anyway, you perseverate and never come up for air.
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Reply report Wed 11 Jul, 2012 08:20 am
@ElleAbri,
Are you taking anti-depressants? This article says they will kill your sex drive.

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2010/05/05/sex-on-antidepressants/

Sounds like you have just worn out the spark that you once had, sexually speaking, this oftens happens with people that have been together a while, there is nothing wrong with you. Usually a simple fix is to step it up a bit in the kinky isle, role play fanticies are usually the best first step.