Im not sure if he is just emotionally unstable or if it something I have done...or BOTH?

Ok so there is this guy that I am talking to and I really like him. I dont fall for guys easily this is probably the first guy I have really been head over heels for in about 5 years. Ive had lots of experience with guys and a date quite a lot, but I just dont develop feelings for them. Anywho, he treats me like gold and like I'm the only girl in the world, I wake up to a text from him every single morning and it always makes me smile. I never get tired of it. But his one major problem is his temper and arrogance.

Things can be going soooo great but if I say one thing he does not agree with it doesnt matter how nicely I say it or how much I support him, looses his cool BIG TIME. Were pretty compatible and loving with each other we dont really disagree on anything. The very first time it happened a few weeks ago. He TOTALLY FLIPPED HIS SH!T over something I suggested, was very rude to me and after not being able to come to an agreement told me that he just did not want to talk to me anymore. So me being the woman I am, I washed my hands clean of him and moved on thinking he'd stick to his word and I would never hear from him again.

Almost 2 weeks later he texted me apologizing saying he wanted to work things out and was sorry if I he had ever made me feel an unpleasant way. He said he does not want me to feel neglected and he is more than willing to put in effort for whatever it is I need from him. I told him that I appreciate it, but that after time away from him I had already started to lose interest, but did miss him a little, and would think about it.

After a couple days of 'thinking' I texted him and we got into another fight. He lost his temper AGAIN like he did the first time and started ignoring me when he was the one who texted me saying he wanted to work things out in the first place. I guess I made him upset, but I didn't mean to, and I was putting in effort at least. I didn't do say anything malicious to him or rude. I did not even curse at him. He simply did not like what I was saying. Like umm hello?! When you 'work things out' with a person its not going to be all peaches n cream you have to be ready to go through a process thats not exactly a walk in the park.

In efforts to avoid this back and forth nonsense I was willing to put in more effort than he was giving to finally end the bickering and I thought to myself if "I am open and vulnerable maybe he will see Im not out to get him and will feel its okay for him to be open and vulnerable too". Society teaches us to play games, hard to get and never let the opposite sex know what we are thinking. But I think its a bunch of bull, leads to unhealthy mindsets and causes problems. I did something out of character for me and totally exposed myself and told him that I care about him and I am trying so hard, and I feel like my effort is just not good enough for him and I dont know why. I told him that I care about him sooo much and that I dont like fighting with him and that I wish he could just talk to me and not always get so angry. He never responded. This was 2 days ago. It hurt so bad that he did not respond. Firstly because I was so open and the effort was not reciprocated, and secondly because he was the one who said he wanted to work things out then basically it was like deja vu what happened the first time basically happened all over again the 2nd time around.

I gave it a day and when he still didn't respond I decided to forget about him. One half of me knows its not my fault and that after being so open with him and really show him how hard I am trying, for him to not even have the consideration to respond he is not worth my time. People criticize me for writing others off to easily, and having little tolerance for those who disappoint me but really, I dont know if those are bad traits especially in this situation. A different part of me is absolutely crushed and wonders why my best was not good enough. This is also the part of me that wonders if maybe having little tolerance for people who disappoint me is a bad thing. A friend of mine said that she always tries to resolve conflicts no matter who is wrong...maybe not to the point where you are close with the person again or even talking but at least to the point where you have closure and know what went wrong. She said in this situation she would text him and resolve things. The first part of me feels that is a stupid idea and that I already tried and would look dumb trying again after being shut down.

I dont know what to do. Should I text him again? What do you think his problem is? Should I feel like theres something more I could have done? I thought I had my answer. After the way he through my heart felt efforts in my face I decided I was done with him. Then my friend comes and tells me I need to keep trying to resolve it. Now I am second guessing myself. And I hate this gut wrenching feeling it my stomach that asks 'why was my best not good enough?" I thought I tried my hardest but maybe I didn't...maybe I need to try better to make him see I care about him than what I thought my best was...