Concerned hubby to be

I think this wedding needs to be at least delayed until you work this out more, talking with her as JoeNation said, and mutually seeing if going out more together will work. Also talking about the level of sexual enjoyment. Marriage is a long time - even the short ones.

Yes, you have several red flags here: a) you are susceptible to flirting with other women; b) your sex life is stale; and c) you're bored at home with your fiance and you're not even married yet. How do you think it will be 5 years from now if you are bored and lack a healthy sex life already?

By then you'll be frustrated, unhappy, probably a father and feel trapped.
Divorce will be so much worse, costly and detrimental for everyone involved, including children, than just doing the right thing before you take that step.

Think long and hard about what you want and what you've got and try to assess your life situation then.

Well what happens if after you get married - you find you are not right with each other?

The wedding being paid for and the house being owned together will be small potatoes compared with trying to sort it out after you are married.

After getting divorce, a good friend of mine said - if it was as hard to get married as it was to get divorced she would have never gotten married.

Yes - I also had a neighbor who did this - he got cold feet and the whole marriage thing didn't sit well with him. He ended up delaying the wedding. They stayed together as a couple and continued to be engaged and live together and work on their relationship.

They did get married several years later. So this doesn't mean you won't stay together and eventually get married, but wouldn't it be better and simpler if you wait if there is so much doubt in your head.

When I got married, yes I was scared and nervous, but also confident about our relationship and ready to be committed and get married from a personal stand point. And even with that - there are times when being married isn't the easiest thing.

what does that have to do with your behaviour and the fact that you're already bored in the relationship?

If this was a month ago I wouldnt have even been on here, everything was fine, just my head (both) r getting in the way., I will talk to her, thanks everyone for your help

Another poster who is going to go on until he hears what he wants to hear.

Where's hawkeye when you need him?

Therein lies the answer.

I'll add that trying to change people is well known not to go well.

What "other head"? Are you crazy? Is that it? Are you that same guy in the other thread whose girlfriend had 100 partners and he had only 7? The one who wrote "she has had 100 loads in her mouth!", and when that remark was criticised, said it was "his mind playing tricks"? Are you screwing with us?

Other head as in penis, no im not that other guys, mine is a real issue, my wife to be isnt a giant whore. Also who here can say that they havent been turned on by someone other than their significant other? If that were true porn wouldnt be popular. So clearly u know what I mean by other head, fantasies.

Ah now I understand. I have one of those too.

That's what I felt too, ding, ding, ding....

I imagine you were sexually compatable at the beginning.. And, for "some" people, they forget the importance of this aspect of their relationship and all of a sudden turn their relationship more into a friends zone.. Still feeling the love.

To me, this is the whole reason why you took that girls number. You are questioning your relationship on the sexual non-compatability, although loving all other aspects.

Joe is totally correct. You need to address this now, before you marry her. But if I can suggest, don't try the blame game, this needs to be discussed openly, honestly and maturely.

I’m also getting married in less then two weeks, since the news has spread around town every Homo in the city has been after my future husband. I’m not threatened in the least, I know where his heart is.

Doesn’t sound like you know where yours is though. Do the girl a favor and wait until you're mature enough for such a large step in life.

Oh, I didn't know!
Congratulations!

Yeah, from what I understand, a lot of people will go after someone just because they are unavailable.

Thank you! Yep Memorial Day Weekend I'll be marrying the Jewish Princess. Lord help me!

So they're all after Morgan.
What are you, chopped liver?

(I'm not sure how that translates into Spanish, but Morgan, good Jewish Boy he is, can explain)

He’s making it up, there are many guys in this town whom love to have a hot shaved headed Puerto Rican as a husband

Wellllll......TOO BAD. YOU GOT TO HIM FIRST!

whew! lucky guy!
but do you really want to get married?