My half brother who i have only seen once before is coming over. how should i act around him?

I suggest starting with a familiar handshake. Some people just aren't comfortable with hugs, even with family. Not sure of the relationships here, but if your mother is also his mother, it is pretty natural he should be more interested in talking to her than you.

If you can get a feel for what he is like, you could introduce him to some of your friends if it seems appropriate. It sounds like you used to know one another, but it's hard to tell. If he wants to be strangers, there's not much you can do.

yeah we have the same mother. my mom is his mom too. and no, i had never met him until last november. i had only seen old pictures and stuff. and my mom hadn't seen him in person for over 10 years.

so we're sort of in the dark as to what he's like on a day to day basis. so this should be really interesting. i just hope he likes us because i would love to have cool big brother.

Keeping that attitude is the best way to get what you want. Don't let your expectations get too high right away. It may be a challenge at first, but personal relationships are one of the few things that really can be helped with a positive attitude. I hope his are the same.

You sound very happy and excited about having a chance to get to know him. I think that if you just let him see those positive feelings, and you make him feel welcome, and treat him like family, he will start to feel like a part of the family.

Maybe you could plan some activities just for the two of you, so you can have a chance to be alone and talk and get to know each other.

You might even e-mail him and ask if there are any special things he'd like to do, or places he'd like to visit, since it doesn't sound like he's been to Australia before. How long will he visiting with you?

If you could start an e-mail correspondence with him that might help to break the ice a little before the visit. You could just tell him about yourself, the things you like to do, and find out a little more about him. That might help you both to feel more comfortable with each other before he even arrives.

Do you know if he has a Facebook page? That might also be another way you could get to learn a little bit more about him and his interests.

Firefly had a very good idea so follow up on that.
Your halfbrother might be just as nervous as you are about getting to know his family and you. He will so to say be alone against the rest of you. Not in a negative sence - just the rest of you know one another well.
He probably will welcome your contact to get to know you more before he comes.
There will be some interesting months ahead of you.

Please forget that dis-appointment. He hadn't seen his Mother in 10 years, he remembers her.. He more than likely was very nervous to meet you

I know he didn't hug you but you know, we women can do it first... Why not hug him when he arrives and just do a throw away line, like " hiya bro, welcome back to Australia, hope you love our accents and me off course" and laugh.. That may very well be the way to break the ice.

thank you. thats a great idea. i'll get on that. my mom has been doing all the communication with him so far. i will get her to ask his facebook info, that way i could get a better idea of what he's like before he gets here.

I actually recommend against the Facebook thing -- right now you have all kinds of questions about him and that's a great way to get talking. If you already know where he works and where he went to school and whether he has a girlfriend and what he does for fun and all of that other info that is frequently (but not always) available on Facebook, that robs you of a lot of opportunity for asking questions and getting conversations started that way.

i won't be using facebook to stalk him or anything like that. i just wanna get a general feeling for him. so that way i could be prepared to talk to him about any mutual interests that we might have. it was really awkward meeting him the last time and i think knowing a bit more about him would make it a lot more comfortable.

OK, that makes sense.

of course just thumbs down the guy who did not suck up to the little brat who asked the question. weird how nobody has a logical reply to disagree with me.

admit it! you people agree with me too. the poster is a stuck little girl who needs to accept that the world doesn't revolve around her.

This young man has not seen his mother in 10 years. They have much to resolve. Talk about stress.

I'm sorry, but he probably has no interest in you right now. Too much on his plate to deal with an unknown half-sibling.

If I were you, I'd step back and let him make the first move towards even talking to you. Your expectations are unrealistic and too high.

Just observe, right now.

i totally agree with you. this chick is trying to make it about herself. selfish brat. it'll be funny if the young man totally ignores this spoilt kid and doesn't pay her any attention at all.

EVERYONE shud be selfish.
The absence of selfishness is stupidity.





David

I suggest that u be polite, pleasant & friendly, when it feels natural to do it.

Just join in the conversation, when it feels right to do it.
Offer your own comments & questions.





David

that doesn't even make sense. quit sucking up to the poster. you are making yourself look stupid.

Be damned, DDT.
I 'll do what I feel like. I don t want advice from jerks like u.





David

lol dumbass.