Just here for a second, the kid is having medical issues today. (Ear thing.)
I don't think that's necessarily contradictory though.
I said from the beginning that this was a maybe. Could be, could not be. Idle observation, no value judgement. Because I see being gay as a neutral attribute. Not intrinsically good, and certainly not bad.
The complication is that of course it's not universally seen as neutral. While I see it as neutral and wish sozlet to see it as neutral, it's viewed by many as far from neutral.
But it seems hard to keep it neutral and not negative if it's never mentioned as a possibility, against the backdrop of assumptions that everyone's straight until they prove otherwise.
One thing I think I've figured out is that people thought I was dissing the kid with that observation. I really wasn't. I get that it could start rumors and that would be bad for him and that's not something I would want to have happen. Hence double-checking that sozlet wouldn't go talking about that, which I thought she wouldn't do, and which she confirmed.
But I think he's a great kid, and if he's not gay and becomes a boyfriend, excellent. If he is gay and turns out to be a close friend who is gay, excellent. If he turns out to be straight and stays a close platonic friend, excellent.