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My girlfriend is giving me mixed signals, help!?

 
 
Reply Tue 10 Apr, 2012 01:22 pm
So this girl that I have been friends with for 3 years told me she liked me and wanted to date me, as well as several of her friends and family members. At first, I was unsure about how I felt, but now i know i really like her. We started dating and I took her out. We havnt been dating long but she has been acting kindof shy, distant, and withdrawn. Sometimes it takes her a while to answer my texts and messages. When we are around each other she seems a little nervous. I guess I am just confused as to why she is acting like this whe nI know she likes me? Can I do anything to help her feel better or be less nervous with me?
 
sozobe
 
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Reply Tue 10 Apr, 2012 01:28 pm
@21549josh,
It sounds like she's just nervous!

She likes you and wants everything to go well and isn't quite sure how to act.

I think just keep seeing each other and let things happen.

(How long have you been dating so far? Sounds like not long.)
21549josh
 
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Reply Tue 10 Apr, 2012 01:33 pm
@sozobe,
We have been dating for a couple weeks, but I initially asked her out about 3 weeks to a month ago. I just know I really find many of her personality traits to be what I am looking for and I just want to do what is best. Thanks
sozobe
 
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Reply Tue 10 Apr, 2012 01:36 pm
@21549josh,
Just a couple of weeks... you guys are still finding your way, then. It doesn't sound to me like her signals are mixed exactly, just plain nervous.

You can also ask her if you'd like -- "I hope I'm not making you nervous! Is there anything I should be doing differently?" Might help take things down a notch.

But probably if you just go ahead and keep seeing her she'll calm down.
21549josh
 
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Reply Tue 10 Apr, 2012 04:08 pm
@sozobe,
Thanks, I will try to help her relax more when I see her, and let her know that we have been friends for a long itme and she can trust me.
sozobe
 
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Reply Tue 10 Apr, 2012 05:13 pm
@21549josh,
That might not be the nervousness really -- more along the lines of "should I kiss him, is he going to kiss me, did those onions I had for dinner give me bad breath, is this dress too revealing, is it too boring," etc. etc. etc.

That's all guesses though of course but it's not that surprising that she'd be nervous when you're only two weeks into a dating relationship, especially if she started it all (i.e. she has strong enough feelings for you that she took a chance and let you know).

Then of course if you've been friends for three years that's probably another level of nervousness (she really wouldn't want to ruin the friendship if the romantic relationship doesn't work out).
21549josh
 
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Reply Sun 15 Apr, 2012 07:54 pm
@sozobe,
I guess I deal with well thank you very much, your answers helped me a lot. I think I just deal with insecurities sometimes and I just want this relaitonship to work out really bad.
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