i cant get wet

Have you tried oral sex?

Maybe find a boyfriend who doesn't make you feel embarrassed and scared about your body?

yes we tried but it wont work... it causes a lot of problems cause we cant have sex... everytime he tries it wont get in cause i m to dry and now he even stopped trying ... the point is also that our forplay doesnt last very long how can i tell him what to do and what to change without offending him ?

Anyone who cares about you is going to do what they can to make you happy, right? If you are worried about offending him, uh, why are you even showing your naked body to him, let alone letting him touch you?

Sorry, I may be old-fashioned, but sex is an intimate act. If you can't communicate with that person without fear of offense, if you feel you are walking on eggshells around them, then no wonder you've got problems relaxing enough to become aroused.

i know that he will do it and i know he wont get mad its just that i am a person that is always scared to do smth wrong and to lose others even if they wouldnt leave me ... but i need to tune up our sex life probably ...

If it's a change, I'd suggest seeing your gynecologist. There could be a medical reason behind it.

So.... He can use a lubricant or he won't have sex.....

As a man,
Let me think about that one for a minute....

Where do you keep the lube?!!!