I know everyone is different and that everyone has different strong points and weak points, but I still can't stop myself from comparing. What should I do?
There are only two things available for you TO do, that I can see.
One, you can stop comparing yourself to others by sheer willpower (which seems unlikely)...or you can stop thinking that comparing yourself with others is a bad thing.
There truly is nothing wrong with comparing yourself with others, Michelle. Everyone does it...it is almost unavoidable.
It sounds, however, as though you end up comparing yourself unfavorably with others.
That is a different question...and maybe it would help to conceive of the problem in different words.
In this question, you termed it:
How can you stop comparing yourself with others?
Take a look at the problem worded this way:
How do I gain better self-esteem, so that when I compare myself with others, I do not come away with such a negative opinion of myself?
Building self-esteem is always a toughy...and EVERYONE has a problem with it. My guess is that many of the people you compare yourself with (and come away thinking they are better, physically more attractive, or smarter)...do the same thing you do AND COME AWAY THINKING THE SAME THING. They ALSO have problems in this area.
Deficiencies in self-assurance is widespread...much more widespread than you may realize.
Two ways of dealing with it that I know of:
First of all...keep getting older. As you do, your self-assurance and self-esteem will grow.
In the meantime...here is a trick some people use: Just keep telling yourself that you are better than you sometimes give yourself credit for. Just keep telling yourself that at every opportunity.
It works. Gotta warn you, though, that it works very much in reverse also. If you keep telling yourself that you are not very good...it works. So even if you have trouble telling yourself that you are better than you give yourself credit for...be sure NOT to tell yourself that you are not good and important.
Give it a try.