do i still love him or i just need sex ?!

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my name is yasmin i have a question to ask and i need a quick reply please Sad

do i still love him or i just need sex ?!
year ago i me THAT guy the one i loved the most and he became my boyfriend very fast
we broke up after about two months
i was terribly broken and so lonely and sad although i knew after we broke up that he is just an asshole but i didn't meet any other guys til now i don't like anyone of them really !
any ways we broke up because some family problems ( my family ) he didn't stand by my side he didn't support me he just walked away ! AND he got back to his ex week later
i know it's obvious he didn't love me although i felt he did
anyways after about a month we talked again just like friends he told that we can be friends but we won't get back together i thought it's ok because all i wanted is to be around him
during that time he broke up with his ex then he got back then broke up again like 100 times
she didn't know that i was talking to him behind her back
and the thing that happened alot is without any reasons he stopped answering my calls then i call him after a while and he answers that happened alot too
but 6 months ago we had that sexual experience it was my first i went to his house and we did it it wasn't real sex but we did take off our clothes but he didn't break my hymen when i was on his bed i asked him to get back to me and he quickly said yes but he treated me like bullshit after that day and we broke up month later and again i was terribly broken ,
since that time we phone sex almost everynight but we didn't do it again we didn't meet on person
but now the problem is sometimes i feel like i don't love him anymore i did suffer alot i don't know if i love him or i just want to have more fun with him !
we're not even in a relationship but we phone sex everynight
and do u think that he loves me still !
or do u think i even mean anything to him Sad

i care about him alot but now i'm really lost i feel like i'm empty inside the day i don't talk to him please i need a quick reply btw i'm 17 and he is the same age as me
sorry for the long topic but i really need the answer that may sound silly but i can't even sleep ! and sorry if there's any grammar or spelling mistakes in my topic i'm not THAT good in English

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[+3] - jespah - 02/23/2012It'll be okay, yasmin. I remember being young and heartbroken and thinking the world was going to end. It didn't. Oh, and welcome to A2K. :)

I'm sorry, but this will be harsh.

This guy doesn't love you. He is using you. And, you are using him, BTW, because you are using him to fulfill a physical need.

So find someone else! Someone who can fulfill your needs without acting like such a dick about things.

Physicality with this guy, BTW, is just asking for an STD. After all, he sleeps with you (or at least phone sexes) while he is on and off with his gf who may be going to someone else, plus he is likely having sex with a third woman or women. These kinds of musical beds are a prime recipe for an STD if you go back to physicality with him, and my money says that you will, and that that's only a matter of time.

Protect yourself - and not only your body from STDs, but also your ego and your sense of self-worth and kick this loser to the curb once and for all.

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He doesn't love you and you don't love him. If someone cares for you they will not ignore you for long periods of time. He seems a bit immature (breaking up and getting back with his ex 100 times, as you put it??) Find someone who is going to care about you and how you feel. Then talk about sex.

Good luck.

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@jespah,

i really like ur opinion ,, but i don't know how ! i don't have enough courage to do so or to tell him that i don't wanna talk to u anymore
i do really care about him jespah tell how to do it please i need ur help Sad

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@CoastalRat,

coastlrat i swear i tried but once i stay away from him for even 1 day i miss him so much i could die
please help and tell me how and do u think that he loves his gf ?!
he always get back to her but break up after a while and say that he will never be back but he does everytime !!!!!!!

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@yasmin17,

First off, you won't die. And each day away from him gets a little bit easier. And it is certainly better for you than what you are putting yourself through right now.

I have no idea if he loves his girlfriend or not. How would I know? Based on how you describe things, I doubt if he even knows. But I certainly do not think he loves you. So the question you need to ask is whether you want to keep hoping for a relationship with someone who does not love you enough to be with you except when he and his gf are in one of their separation stages.

The best advice I can give is to move on. It might hurt for a while, but you will be better off in the long run.

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@CoastalRat,

I'm with CoastalRat.

You were perfectly fine before him, right? Don't you have other friends? Work? School? Some sort of distraction or other?

Don't call him. Don't write. Don't text. Don't visit. Don't drive by his home. Don't ask his friends how he is, or if he misses you. Cut off all contact and don't take his calls. Erase his call history from your phone. And do other things, particularly for the first few days immediately afterwards. Go visit an out of town friend for a few days. Volunteer to help the less fortunate. Go running. Visit with your family. In short, do things that don't involve contacting him and obsessing over him. There are lots of things, if you need a list.

I am not guaranteeing a lack of pain or even that heartache will go away quickly. But what I can tell you is - you're already broken up. It's just that you don't know about it yet.

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@CoastalRat,

i hope ,, will try coastalrat many thanks for ur advice

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@jespah,

ur harsh words were really helpful i can't thank u enough for ur opinion and ur advice , thanks again

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@yasmin17,

It'll be okay, yasmin. I remember being young and heartbroken and thinking the world was going to end. It didn't.

Oh, and welcome to A2K. Smile

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