Hello frns..I am just a confused gal.Plz help me out of this.

There's a saying ..."the grass is always greener in the other fellow's yard."

It might be that you want what you can't have. Either you feel the excitement with the guy you've been seeing or you don't. Excitement that generates from having the right chemistry can't be created..it's either there or it isn't. The unavailable guy is exciting but apparently that's NOT meant to be.

Maybe you just need to date other people who ARE available and that DO excite you. Tell your mom your just not happy with your current boyfriend for the long term. Your happiness is what counts. Of course, show your mom the appropriate respect..but it's not working out with her making choices in your love life.

I tend to agree with Ragman that this may be a case of wanting what you can't have.

Your co-worker is not available for a relationship with you and he's let you know that. But that also makes him "safe" to obsess about, because nothing is going to happen, it's all in the realm of fantasy. His unavailability may be part of your co-worker's appeal. Maybe you're just not ready to be in a committed relationship.

What is wrong with your current boyfriend? You describe him as very caring, thoughtful, helpful, and in love with you. So, what's missing? You say your co-worker is "more matured"--do you think your boyfriend is immature? Is he not good company, is he dull or boring? Do you not share any interests with him? Is he physically unappealing to you? Do you dislike being cared for the way he is expressing it? Are you rejecting him just because your mother pushed you toward him?

Why do you want to keep everybody happy? Your personal relationships with men should be based on whether you are happy in the relationship, whether your life is better because you are in the relationship, whether the relationship satisfies your needs.

Forget about the co-worker, he is not an option. Your options are to remain involved with your current boyfriend, who does sound nice, and perhaps still continue to date other men, or to stop seeing your boyfriend and date others, if you feel it is best to end the relationship with your boyfriend for some reason.

I'd think twice about dumping someone who sounds as nice and caring as your boyfriend, unless there is really some major drawback about him that you haven't mentioned. Perhaps you can just continue to date others if something is really missing from this relationship, or perhaps you can work on improving this relationship. But I think you need to think about what you are really looking for in a relationship.

Its not your job, or your mother's job, to make everybody happy. The right thing is seek to make yourself genuinely happy. The fellow at the office? You should recognize him as an imfatuation, not a real prospect for love. If you pull him to betray himself you will do a lot of harm. You have a choice. You can seek you happiness elsewhere or you can seek the man you can authentically love. Just because a young man is wining, dining, schmoozing, and treating you like a royal princess does not mean he is the right man, nor may you be the eventually right woman for him. But, then, maybe he is. If you don't love him why bother? This dilemma happens to more people than anyone could count. "Be truthful and to thine own self be true". Without wax.

Thanks . I'll keep that in mind if I ever want to date men.

Ask your "crush" to be invited to his upcoming wedding.

If that doesn't knock it out of you, nothing will.