@boomerang,
hi all!
strange thread to come back to after ages, but i am quite happy to have found any interesting thread at all, this "new" (i know it's been years now) a2k is not very user friendly to this user.
i had my ears pierced when i was 4. i really wanted it, and mom took me. remember no issues around that. later, i did three more ear piercings myself, with a needle.
as for Mo, he might not be able to articulate his desire. when i was ten, i really really really wanted to do horseback riding. there were many sensible arguments against and my mom was decidedly opposed, for at least a year. i could not and actually still cannot explain why it was so important. but at some point it was ALL that i could think about, it was all-consuming. Finally mom allowed me to go in return for good grades and dad took me... and i did it for some four years. i'm still glad i did, although i was always terrified of horses at the same time. and i'm still glad she allowed me. i was always pretty stubborn and i would have probably rebelled if i was forbidden the prospect of horses once and for all.
i think especially kids that are somewhat introverted and have a strong sense of identity, awareness of self, such things can become crucial. it may be a trifle to others, or something bordering on a sin for others, but for him alone, it can be really really really important because...well he can't tell exactly why.