Sex, What is right? My idea? Or Hers?

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I am 18 and my girlfriend is 17. We have been having sex for about a year, but its a little different. Her mom is really strict and wont buy her birth control because then she knows that we will probably have sex. we are both worried about her getting pregnant, but we really like having sex with each other. So we do, and I wear a condom, and I also dont cum during sex ever, just to be careful. And i really dont mind at all. but thats also where the problem arises. obviously i like to cum, who doesnt? So ill ask once in a while if she will give me head or a hand job so i can. but she always gets mad and asks me why only sex isnt good enough. which it is, i love it. but isnt cumming part of sex? i think im being pretty good about not cumming, but all she thinks about is how i dont like sex and only want to cum, and she doesnt ever want to make me cum. but i think she should maybe get over it once in a while and do it for me because i think its an important part of sex. i dont know who is right. do you??

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I thought that only pornography spelled it 'cum', and normal people spelled it 'come'?

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@John27,

Why not stop hiding that you are having sex and tell her mother that you both want to be responsible and use birth control to prevent a pregnancy?

On the other hand, she's still a minor and you are now a legal adult having sex with a minor. Have you thought about the legal ramifications for you if her mother finds out and decides to press charges against you?

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@contrex,

haha well i spell it cum...

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@Butrflynet,

I guess i haven't asked her if she would want to or thought about doing that... and yes we have thought about the legal things, her mother would be pretty pissed but not that pissed lol and she loves me so i dont think she would press charges or anything.

but to my original question... until she does get birth control one way or another.. what do you think? am i right?

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@Butrflynet,

WEll, she is 17 years old, Butrflynet - I don't think the mother could press charges.
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John,
making love is a two way street - as everything in life, and if you rationally discuss with your girlfriend that both of you should have a satisfying experience during sex, she probably will agree with you. Now you haven't mentioned anything about her having an orgasm, but if she does, it is only natural that she'd reciprocate and extend the same pleasures to you.
If she still refuses to help you reach an orgasm, then you two have a problem and chances are that they're not entirely sexual alone.

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@Butrflynet,

Butrflynet wrote:

On the other hand, she's still a minor and you are now a legal adult having sex with a minor.

Not necessarily.

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@John27,

John27 wrote:

I am 18 and my girlfriend is 17. We have been having sex for about a year, but its a little different. Her mom is really strict and wont buy her birth control because then she knows that we will probably have sex.

Her mom isn't Michelle Bachman by any chance, is she?

John27 wrote:

So ill ask once in a while if she will give me head or a hand job so i can. but she always gets mad and asks me why only sex isnt good enough.

Well, you still have hands, right?

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@John27,

As long as you make sure that she has an orgasm every time then I don't think you're being unreasonable to expect a little more than you're getting now.

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@John27,

first of all your a fool and soon will learn why as the years pass youll see women learn to control you with sex educate yourself! if you have a condom on go ahead cum your chances are posted on the package 98 to 99 % effective plus clean up is simple take it off tie it up and throw it away. Educate her! let her know its ok swing the power the other way let her know that if she doesnt want you to cum when shes there then you are capable of cuming when shes not. get over it if you care about her and she cares about you then this is a non issue youll both work to make the other happy if its sex with cum you want well there is plenty of fish in the sea!

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@cuervo ,

What a load of crap...

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@John27,

It does not matter what others do and others think is reasonable, you like to cum so you should have a girl who wants you to cum too, because a relationship is not worth much if you arn't both helping each other get what you want. That she is trying to make you feel bad for what you want is very bad sign. Next time around attempt to get a better class of girl friend. Still, As long as you are with her you should also try to get to the bottom of what her problem is..most likely she really does not like sex that much and is trying to do the min required to keep you happy and not feeling good about herself for doing it (which would be another reason to move along), but it might be something else.

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@John27,

Hey pal. If you're wearing a condom feel free to come! They never failed me! Also, I don't know any 18 year old who has sex without coming! It's not good for your prostate!

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When does your girlfriend turn 18? It seems to me the parent problem ends when this happens.

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@maxdancona,

maxdancona wrote:

When does your girlfriend turn 18? It seems to me the parent problem ends when this happens.

Maybe, but Planned Parenthood is having extensive funding problems, so access to birth control off of the parents insurance plan ledger is getting more difficult to come by even at 18 YO..

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@hawkeye10,

Incorrect.

She should talk to her doctor who can give her a prescription for birth control pills. Once she is 18 this is confidential information that her parents won't be able to access.

The insurance bill will show that she had an appointment and will show that she was given a prescription. There is no way for her parents to find out what this prescription was for and could just as easily be headache medicine as birth control.

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@maxdancona,

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She should talk to her doctor who can give her a prescription for birth control pills. Once she is 18 this is confidential information that her parents won't be able to access.

The insurance bill will show that she had an appointment and will show that she was given a prescription. There is no way to find out what this prescription was for and could just as easily be headache medicine as birth control.

Said as if they will not ask, and then suspect the truth, and be supremely pissed off if they are lied to by their kid. Using the parents plan is risky, and must be considered the last resort.

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@hawkeye10,

You have never had an 18 year old kid, have you.

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@maxdancona,

maxdancona wrote:

You have never had an 18 year old kid, have you.

2 so far, but we are military and our system is different. We never get a statement because there is no reason to care, we pay $0 a year unless we go in the hospital, and then we pay something like $10 a day for food. We dont have a cap either, so there is no reason to account for yearly costs on that end either.

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@hawkeye10,

and thats why im still in the Corps. LOL

want birth control get a job and pay for it.

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