(((Pocketfulofmars)))
Your "pain" is very apparent. If I may add my two cents also....
Okay, so you would rather have your partner not flirt at all. This may be what you want, but not necessarily what you are going to get. We all want to feel special and like we are the only one our lover has eyes for, but the truth is, your partner's eyes have a right to explore whatever or whoever it is around them, as do you.
Being in a relationship never means that you own your partner or can start changing things about them, which is why it is so essential that you study your partner's personality, attitudes and habits while you are still in the dating process and before you decide to have an official relationship. Since you have not met each other in person....you have not been able to do that.
Being attracted to other people does not necessarily mean that your partner wants to go and cheat on you with all those people. Being attracted to others could mean that your partner is simply acknowledging the good looks that another person carries and stops it at that point. Attraction does not always create a temptation to cheat and you should allow your security to grow on that fact.
Until you meet......you can not even begin to "make better" those things that bother you...for they are hidden behind a veil. That veil, being your monitor. If you think you are in love....follow the advice given you on here and set up a meeting.
On a lighter note.....have you ever watched a baby when they see something pleasing to their eyes or ears? They will kick their feet and arms and start to coo till they start spitting little bubbles out of their mouth. Their eyes will light up and they will form a grin almost as big as their tiny face. They are just reacting to something that pleases them. But if you have watched them ...they almost get a flirtacious look in their little eyes. Of course they aren't being flirtacious......they are just exibiting a common reaction inbred within them. My point being....if it pleases the eye there will most likely be some sort of reaction albeit innocent.
Jealousy is normal to a point.....but can also be very ugly and has killed many a relationship.
Just my thoughts.....good luck
~Brooke