Problems having sex

Hm, I can't really help you here, hopefully one of the guys show up here and give you some tips...
In the meantime, you can practice to hold out longer which means: masturbating to arouse yourself and stop shortly before ejaculating, repeat!

Go and see a doctor --- You could have a heart problem

Sorry posted my reply toC/Jane.

I've spoken to my doc and he said try masterbating 30mins before sex, it didn't work .

I'll try the masterbating and hold it in thing.... Any other suggestions

Thx guys I'm really at a crossroads in my life......

That sounds like really dubious advice. It might help with the premature ejaculation problem, but it seems to be counterproductive with regard to the maintenance-of-erection problem. Every man has what's known as a "refractory period," which, to put it concisely, is the amount of time between and orgasm and the next erection. For a sixteen-year old, the refractory period may be a matter of seconds. For someone your age, the time period would be longer -- how much longer I have no idea, but thirty minutes may not provide sufficient time for your much-abused best friend to recover.

Frankly, it sounds like you're in a negative-reinforcement feedback loop. You don't perform, so you worry about performing the next time, which causes you not to perform, which causes additional worry, etc. etc. etc. I don't like to recommend something this drastic, but in a serious case such as yours, I would suggest spending less time obsessing about your performance issues and more time relating to your girlfriend. In other words, the dreaded "C" word -- cuddling. Just be with her, getting to know her body as she gets to know yours, without any rush to the sex part. If you become aroused, hold off for a while, let her find out what you like without any pressures to perform.

Right now, I don't think you need techniques, you need confidence. You don't overcome performance anxiety by becoming more anxious about your performance.

My reason for advising the doctor trip was from a personal reason of my own (age related ). For most males, as you grow old erections are harder to maintain or even to obtain one, mostly the reason for this is the fact that arteries become restrictive ( hardening ) however if you are young and have this problem, the first thing a doctor (I feel ) should investigate.... is whether you have hardening of arteries, as the heart is the supplier of blood for a erection and blood vessels carry the blood to the penis. Also try typing in Google what your problem is and you can get good information there .

Very good post... would more than likely be the answer to his problem.

"Threats" she will leave you if you don't have "proper" sex?

SHE is the problem here, guy. SHE is causing you so much anxiety that it's no wonder you can't maintain an erection. Who could function under such pressure?

If the Dr. has cleared you physically, then it's an issue of performance anxiety.

Don't see her for a while and get yourself calmed down. Take a look at the relationship and see if she bosses you around in other ways. I have a feeling that you are being emasculated by her and it shows in bed.