@Izzie,
An update for those of you who were curious about how things would develop. We've seen each other twice since I was posting this. She's not as direct as other people, and also reserved – as my posts above make clear. But I know with quite certainty that she's looking for romance, and clearly chooses to go slow. Maybe because she wants to see what kind of guy I am, which suits me fine if I am to trust my gut and the way I feel about her. Fact is, I appreciate her even more for doing this. It tells me we're both serious about relationships.