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dancerdoll
 
Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 01:39 am
Last summer my sister gave my cell number to a guy and i was thinking " oh great now i get to deal with this bs" anyway he started texting me ,calling me ect. Well I really started to like this guy..lets call him John..so john and i sat up all night talking about random things (neither of us wanted to stop talking).we kept talking everyday so he asked me to go to the park with him (cheesy i know) so We hung out together and by that point i was REALLY liking him..and he was calling me all the time so i know he was liking me too..all of the calls/texts were kind of getting annoying because suddenly he started just saying "k" to everything..so i stopped talking to him i thought "hey you wanna be with me ?fight for it" well.he didnt he just gave up..and now i have a new cell number and i tried contacting him through facebook but i know he doesnt use it alot..his best friend was online so i asked him to give my new number to john he promised he would because he knew how much we liked each other..but i dont know because he hasnt talked to me ..and i dont understand why..what did i do wrong/ Sad
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Setanta
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 02:53 am
There is no reason for you to assume that you did anything wrong. There are any number of reason why this boy stopped keeping in touch, none of which could be described as your fault.
OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 03:32 am
@dancerdoll,
dancerdoll wrote:
Last summer my sister gave my cell number to a guy and i was thinking " oh great now i get to deal with this bs" anyway he started texting me ,calling me ect. Well I really started to like this guy..lets call him John..so john and i sat up all night talking about random things (neither of us wanted to stop talking).we kept talking everyday so he asked me to go to the park with him (cheesy i know) so We hung out together and by that point i was REALLY liking him..and he was calling me all the time so i know he was liking me too..all of the calls/texts were kind of getting annoying because suddenly he started just saying "k" to everything..so i stopped talking to him i thought "hey you wanna be with me ?fight for it" well.he didnt he just gave up..and now i have a new cell number and i tried contacting him through facebook but i know he doesnt use it alot..his best friend was online so i asked him to give my new number to john he promised he would because he knew how much we liked each other..but i dont know because he hasnt talked to me ..and i dont understand why..what did i do wrong/ Sad
If there was a point in time
that he began saying "k" to everything, I 've gotta wonder what
transpired immediately B4 that point in time?? Did u offend him? He sounds crestfallen.
It sounds like something caused him abruptly to lose social momentum; become disspirited.
That is consistent with discontinuing contact.



U said:
Dancerdoll wrote:
so i stopped talking to him i thought "hey you wanna be with me? fight for it"
He might have taken that as a personal rejection.
About 30 years ago, a young lady with whom I was obsessed for a long time
told me not to call her any more.
FOR SURE, that was the last time that I called her.
I understood what that meant. It did not mean "fight for it."
It meant that she demanded distance and silence.

If he feels that u rejected him, that u don 't see value in him,
then logically, it falls to him
to do his best to take his pleasure elsewhere.





David
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Optimistic Pessimist
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 04:27 am
@dancerdoll,
Go improve your grammer.
Ragman
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 08:56 am
@Optimistic Pessimist,
Speaking of ironic twists: the word is spelled grammar.
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CalamityJane
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 09:28 am
@dancerdoll,
He probably thought that you changed your cell phone number on purpose
so he won't be able to contact you any longer. It could be all a misunderstanding and some hurt feelings. Can't you call him? He obviously
must still have the same number. Sometimes an actual phone call should
set preference over a text message.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 03:45 pm
@dancerdoll,
dancerdoll wrote:

..so i stopped talking to him


.what did i do wrong




playing games like not talking to someone you really like

that seems like something you did wrong

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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 04:01 pm
Why do girls tease? say yes when they mean no? demand aggression then rebuke advances? I don't get it.
dancerdoll
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 04:33 pm
@PUNKEY,
He was also playing games though. I kept catching him in lies.He told me he didn't know a girl after she told me he was the first guy she kissed or something like that.I wouldn't have cared but he lied,so i started playing games also. I just don't know.
dancerdoll
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 04:35 pm
@CalamityJane,
Maybe that is it,but i changed it long after he stopped calling me and i gave him my number.Maybe i shouldn't have changed my number?
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dancerdoll
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 04:37 pm
@CalamityJane,
I did try calling him after I saw him and it was the same "k" thing again. I think I'm going to give up.
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jcboy
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 04:39 pm
@dancerdoll,
So you both played games and he’s a liar, if you gave him your new cell number I’d say it’s time to change it again and move on.
dancerdoll
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 04:39 pm
@Setanta,
Thank You Setana. I feel like I did do something wrong though.Maybe it's just not meant to be...
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dancerdoll
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 04:41 pm
@jcboy,
That's what I'm thinking..But i REALLY liked him..
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jcboy
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 04:54 pm
I’ve ran into my share of guys I liked that played games and lied, dumped them quick, now I have guys coming out my ears lol. Plenty of fish in the sea so to speak Smile
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Mame
 
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Reply Mon 20 Jun, 2011 05:29 pm
@dancerdoll,
I'm with David... I would have asked him why he was always saying 'k' and not acting as he had. The mature approach, if you want to continue a relationship, is to non-aggressively find out what you did wrong, if anything, and discuss it.

Better luck next time.
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BDV
 
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Reply Tue 21 Jun, 2011 03:42 pm
@dancerdoll,
Being a man, i can vouch for men and tell you that we are all bastards, theres a fine line between love and lust and we tend to want the last one. Games and lies just make us look elsewhere, and if someone else gives out during the process then you are forgot about, but being in a long term relationship (Who played the field before hand) i have to say that when things click they click quickly and with the proper person. 17 years later, i have no complaints.
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