I have always told my daughter, from a very early age that she can say what ever she wants too. This includes swear words.
She .... on only a hand full of occasions ... has actually integrated cuss words into her conversations. Saying things like " that was funny as hell" ... while laughing so hard she couldn't breathe. or she would drop something and said '****' ... Crying angry about something saying 'damnit'
And none of it matters.
I can, quite literally, count on two hands where SHE has cussed on her OWN about something, using the word in perfect context with her conversation.
Swear words are only as powerful as you make them for your kids.
There has been ONE time she just repeated a word over and over and over and over. I believe.. it was ****? But my memory may be off. For about 2 days everything was '**** this, **** that, **** **** **** ****'. Sometimes it was funny. Others it bugged the hell out of me. And , either way, I always told her. She could not have been more than 2 , maybe 2 1/2 . Totally age appropriate behavior, but annoying as hell.
Since she can freely say what she wants how she wants to, she rarely cusses. I DO mean rarely. Those words are just NOT important to her. I never gave them any power, never treated them any differently and never jumped through a roof to make her not use them. They are, after all, just words.
You know that one of the original meanings of the word **** was to plant seeds in your ground?
From Wiki -
Yet another possible etymology is from the Old High German word pfluog, meaning "to plow, as in a field".
Really... they are just
words. It is all about your CONTEXT and your INTENTION
I took the time to teach Jillian that intention was MORE
important then 'most' of your words. ( no. this does not include all situations or all words. Just generally speaking here..)
I can call you a star head, and use other words that might not make any sense at all, and yet with those words hurt you tremendously because that is my very intent. I can also call you a star head and mean it with endearment and love and leave you feeling wonderful...again.. because it is my intent. And when you speak from your truth, whether it is anger, love, hate...etc.. your words may not always be the perfect choice in every situation, but your words will always reflect how you feel so long as you stay honest.
Each culture has a different set of 'swear' words and this country is so smothered in PC rules that everything can be taken as an offense to someone else.. so just stay honest. **** what words you use