I was sincerely asking. Since then I bought the Trustbust app and it worked perfectly. Maybe too well. I learned she WAS snooping (the app took 25 pictures of her AND recorded that she had tried 'intentionally' to access my oprivate messages.
Before I showed her the pics, and tried to give her an out and let her fess up but she lied and said she hadn't been looking in my phone. So NOW I know that she snoops and lies. This is not good. When I showed her the pictures she called me a son of a bitch, grabbed her keys and phone and has been gone for 5 hours now.
During which time I have decided this is a little more than I want to use as the foundation of a relationship. I'm going to pask up my banjo and hit the trail.
If any of you guys are in a similar spot you might consider getting Trustbust, it really will give you solid proof of snooping and intent. Thanks for all your support everyone!