Boyfriend loves a lot (so he says) but is abusive and insecured!

Leave him. Don't let his threats of suicide derail that. He is a big boy and is trying to manipulate you.

Leave him. Do not throw away your life for him.

He is a jerk. Walk away. Period.

Committed to what? Making your life miserable???

I know someone who married a woman who would threaten suicide. Almost 20 years, and three kids later, he finally got up the gumption to leave what turned out to be a horrible marriage.

Your bf is a manipulator, and a control freak. If you stay with him, it will get only worse, not better.

Leave now, and make it clear that you don't want to hear from him again. Change your phone number, and unlist it if you have to. This guy is toxic, and will only cause you grief.

well i totally agree with watever u said in here and perhaps thats why i am here asking for u ppls' suggestions
thanx bud
well changing num and all not required as i well know.. he will respectfully stop if i really want it to.
but u wont blv, its been OVER A MONTH that i have been ignoring him, it is not that he is coaxing me to love him and all but is defntly asking for forgivness and WANTS TO rectify his faults. for that he needs me. even if not like the previous intimate actual relationship stuffs but to "build up the compatibility" if possible.
all he is asking these for is cos he really loves me and want to "do" things for me.
so he says.

moreover u know...i even noticd initially like i used to be quiet and subdued whenever he got angry or abused (verbally), i have been shouting at him and insulting and dismissing him all these one and a half months but he is so patient...really and accepts his guilts. wants to rectify, but WITH my sup.

he is really a man with self esteem, not to bend like this, as i have known him long.

thanx jes!well i have posted smthing more below my page about this...pls go thru it

well i totally agree with watever u said in here and perhaps thats why i am here asking for u ppls' suggestions
thanx bud
well changing num and all not required as i well know.. he will respectfully stop if i really want it to.
but u wont blv, its been OVER A MONTH that i have been ignoring him, it is not that he is coaxing me to love him and all but is defntly asking for forgivness and WANTS TO rectify his faults. for that he needs me. even if not like the previous intimate actual relationship stuffs but to "build up the compatibility" if possible.
all he is asking these for is cos he really loves me and want to "do" things for me.
so he says.

moreover u know...i even noticd initially like i used to be quiet and subdued whenever he got angry or abused (verbally), i have been shouting at him and insulting and dismissing him all these one and a half months but he is so patient...really and accepts his guilts. wants to rectify, but WITH my sup.

he is really a man with self esteem, not to bend like this, as i have known him long.

Emotionally secure guys/guys with a high self-esteem will not resort to abuse, physical, verbal or sexual. If your boyfriend has gone that lane, he is surely not someone you want to risk your future to.

And him trying to redeem himself by bearing your insults in silence, etc., just seems like a trick to get you back. He's a parasite who's afraid to lose his host.

I'd advise you to walk out of this relationship.

Leave NOW RUN get help talk about it! Good luck. I talk from experience.

This man will not change. so many women think a man will change and all the time they are mistaken.

Do not see or speak to this man again. he is trying to manipulate you into doing what he wants.

He will eventually become abusive either physically, verbally or sexually or all of these.

Partners in relationships who are abusive like that are dependent on people for their happiness, and over dependency leads to minor or major cases of obsession. Now before people begin biting my head off, when I say obsession, I don't necessarily mean stalking or other extreme behaviors, but it could be as minor as to looking at their facebooks every five minutes no matter what you are doing just to check to see what they are up to or what their friends are saying to them. He is so dependent on his relationships(romantic, family, friend, etc), that in his mind, he has drawn impossible expectations or standards to live up to, maybe certain things he plans out on you doing exactly, but if he is disappointed, then he goes into a rage from his unrealistic goals. Don't let him threaten you by saying things that would normally guilt you such as suicide. I know it's hard, but if you have any shred of self respect or dignity, you will do what is best for the BOTH of you and leave him. Be strong, don't be weak enough as to succumb to misery.

A romantic partner is someone who makes you feel good about who you are, and they express appreciation for your character. A romantic partner should inspire you to be a better person and introduce you to new thoughts and ideas. If he doesn't inspire you, and if he doesn't accept and appreciate who you are as a person, then don't downgrade yourself to let him think so lowly or unhonorably of you. If you are strong and you think you deserve better and you take action in representation of these thoughts, then you DO deserve better. But, if you stay with him to endure the torment, then you deserve exactly what you are getting because you refuse to give yourself better.