Teen Crush

It is up to your fiance to make it clear that her adoration might be flattering, but it is inappropriate and not welcome. He should at least try and avoid her without hurting her feelings. Her mother is not helping the situation by making silly remarks. It's best for adult men to stay away from young girls, because even if nothing happens, he might end up accused of bad behavior.

I am curious why your financee mentioned this to the girl and her mother.

As an adult, he needed to distance himself from her ASAP. Instead, he shares the juicy gossip with them and the mother gives an inappropriate response.

Watch how he handles this very closely.

Has it ever occurred to you that the mother was quite possibly being cheeky when she heard this revelation about her daughter?

Out of curiosity, how old are you?

i'll be 48 in a month and a half, why do you ask?

sorry, but this question is intended for 3 monkies.

I am 26, not that it matters. And I am not sure why he mentioned to them what I had said. He takes his brother outside to sit and the mother comes to talk my fiance and then her daughter tags along........And I don't believe that her mother was being "cheeky" either. I honestly believe that she wouldn't care if her daughter was to sleep with him! Which he WOULD NOT do! For one she is a child and two he would not cheat on me. And I am not just saying that either because I am in "denial" or whatever.

I asked because it is relevant for my understanding of the whole picture of thosew involved in your circusmrtances. IMHO, from my admittedly uninformed observation, you seem jealous and/or annoyed by this young teenager.

Well, of course I am annoyed! Wouldn't you be? I am not jealous of her one little bit. My fiance and I have been together almost 9 years and our relationship couldn't be better. It just really pissed me of when her mother said what she did. That is when I got annoyed about it. Cause now I never know what she is going to try now that she pretty much has permission from her mother to have a relationship with my fiance! Or whatever. I am sure you know what I am trying to say! LOL Anyway, my fiance told me last night (after a very small argument about this situation!) that he was going to stop talking to her. I told him that I didn't care if he talks to her occasionally but he needs to make it clear to her that nothing can happen between them. I dunno. We will see how it goes I suppose. I am wondering if I should have a talk to her mother??

No, you should not talk to her mother because her mother obviously doesn't see it your way based on what you told us. If you trust your fiance there should be no problem. It's up to your fiance to keep the relationship innocent. He is the adult, she is the child. If you keep up the jealousy act you are bound to get into fights, so drop it and go with your feelings of trust.

Sorry - the mother's remarks were inappropriate, suggestive and downright border on pimping . . .

How about: "Gee Mary, I understand that little Linda has a girlschool crush on my Fred. Does she have kids her own age to hang out with? I'd be willing to drive her and her friends to the roller rink some day so she could be with them'"

Maybe this young girl needs a healthy female role model to guide her.

I think you're making a big deal out of nothing, and should just drop it.

Next case.

First thing you need to know never and i mean never put your partner on a pedestal one no man is perfect nor is any woman so just in case there are any women dealing with crushes from 15 year old boys you're covered as well as some people take advantage of your trust second he may be enjoying the attention factor in the self esteem of your I'm guessing now husband and third jealousy and paranoia are unsubstantiated for one no man should have to pay for your insecurity. Finally just tell him it bothers you and request he tell the teen he isnt interested because the longer it lingers the more you will have to deal with it. If you dont want to take my suggestions that's on you if nothing has been done by this time enjoy your pedo husband if something has been done then hope it doesn't happen again. That last sentence covered both ways of going about the issue, so don't get offended. Also you should have a resolution post if this issue has been sated just ignoring the girl is not safe u will create a stalker and if this girl still is doing what she was doing now you may need to risk hurting the girl's feelings she must learn the pain of heartbreak think when you were a girl and had a crush and got scorned good luck and hope things go well

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