@mark noble,
Mark, I'm delighted to inform you that there are, indeed, threads here in which the participants are not at war with each other!
Come over & join us at the cooking threads (with your own special recipes to share, of course!) & I think you'll find what you're looking for! A wonderful spirit of cooperation!
However, on politics & debating threads, I think you're going to find lots & lots of passionate debate! Surely you're not surprised by this?
Maybe you should avoid them, if you find them so unsettling?