Having finished Jared Diamond's excellent book
Why Is Sex Fun?, I would argue that our sex lives are an important part of what makes us human. They stand out as eccentric among the thousands of mammal species, of which we are just one.
- Only humans have sex for recreation, with the one exception of bonobos. As it happens, bonobos are our closest surviving relatives in nature, together with chimpanzees.
- Humans are among the very few social mammals who organize themselves into stable couples who jointly raise the offspring they produce. Again, the exceptions to this rule tend to be close evolutionary relatives of ours, such as gorillas, gibbons, or saddleback tamarin monkeys. The only more remote relative Diamond mentions are zebras.
- Humans are the only social animals who don't have sex in public.
- Human females are the only animals that go through menopause.
Remember how theologians sometimes circumscribe homosexuality as a "crime against nature"? That's bunk. If nature was into criminalizing deviance, the
true criminals of nature would be people having straight sex without fertilizing eggs, prudes who don't have sex in public, men who care for their children, and women who don't just die when their fertility declines. If your sex life conforms to the standards of nature, you're not truly human.