Thanks eoe, that's what I do, mind over matter, I say no when he offers me his cigarette but a lot of the times I cave and go to bed disappointed, (and scared of lung cancer), and try to soothe myself by believing I'll do better tomorrow and I've just been going around this circle for weeks, it's so easy to give in, yes I must try harder. Thanks.
Like eoe, I quit on my own too. After 35 years of smoking. That was in 1997. You have to want to quit. You have to have the will to quit. You have to be strong. You say that you are strong but follow that up with the fact that you cave in. Sorry, but that is not being strong.
One of the problems seems to be that your boyfriend offers you a cigarette. Is he aware that you want to quit? If so, he is certainly not being supportive.
You have to go day by day. Hour by hour. I won't tell you that it will be easy. It will not. Is it worth it? Yes, it is.
I have seen so many people who have used the patch, hypnosis, accupuncture etc. fail. The only thing that can really accomplish the goal is your own mind.